Perhaps because I consciously try to become more attractive as a woman, elite men have started hitting on me and asking me out.

I’m not sure whether you’re troubled because you can’t have sex, or because you simply don’t want to and are wondering how to pursue a romantic relationship without it. If you have no one to talk to, you should live the way you want. And if you’re looking for someone to consult, you should just look for them.

> I want to date, but I really can’t have sex. There are probably quite a few men around the same age who also don’t have sex. I know a woman outside the club who looks just like Satomi Ishihara, and even when she stayed overnight at male friends’ places or traveled with them, the men never laid a finger on her. The men liked her, but she wasn’t interested in them. If you’re as attractive as the person asking this question, I think there are plenty of men around your age who don’t place much emphasis on sex. Actually, men your age are probably less skilled at creating the right mood, so things likely won’t progress anyway. I don’t think you have much to worry about. (When you’re with someone older like me, perhaps you let your guard down, and things tend to progress smoothly.) I think you can move toward a romantic relationship without being so afraid. Also, outside the club, I knew a beautiful woman who looked like Yuko Araki and was the same type as you. I never touched her except for kissing. I think there are probably quite a few people around you who have similar concerns. You don’t need to assume you’re that unusual—why not try talking about it? > Mr. Makeotoko Let me explain “reverse offers.” There are two types of reverse offers. ● The first is when a male respondent reacts to a question, and the female questioner sends a reverse offer to that respondent in response to his answer. In other words, it’s a reverse offer prompted by a particular question. ● The other is when a woman becomes interested in a man’s previous answers and wants to meet him, so she sends him a reverse offer. In my case, most of them were the latter. Basically, a reverse offer means that when a female member or female respondent wants to meet a male respondent, she contacts him—sometimes through Mr. Maezawa—and accepts an offer from him. If the question itself was the catalyst, the male respondent may have sensed something from the question. If it was based on his usual answers, the woman may have sensed something from those. Perhaps you could say they sensed a kind of telepathy—a mutual desire to connect.

Sexual conversations were off-limits in my household too. Whenever a kissing scene started on TV, someone would change the channel, haha. But you can’t completely shut out those feelings, so I secretly watched adult videos in high school. I also never got involved with another woman from the time I married my wife until we divorced. But these days, I see intimacy as a kind of sport and have a very active love life. You may have blossomed a little later than most, but once you do, you might really go all out. In a monogamous society, intimacy with multiple partners may be considered wrong, but people’s views can change dramatically as the times change.

> I was raised by my parents to believe that sex was something I shouldn’t have. > They even told me I was a truly filthy, dirty girl. > Haha（笑） I understand perfectly. Since you’re their precious daughter, I think your parents raised you that way because they didn’t want you to become too promiscuous. As Early-san also said, it would have been better if your parents themselves hadn’t had sex—but unfortunately, they did, and that’s how you came into the world（笑） I certainly don’t think sex is filthy or dirty（笑） If anything, I think it’s necessary... It might be a good idea to register with Universe and get some guidance from Makeo-san and Mac-san（笑） P.S. What does “reverse offer” mean? With Universe, male members make offers to registered women and are introduced to them. Women can’t request to meet a specific man. So, someone came up with the workaround of having women ask a male member, “Would you like to meet me?” That’s what they call a “reverse offer.” The way to make one is just as Makeo-san explained. Registered women can’t see which other women or male members are registered. However, since an answerer is definitely a male member, this convenient feature allows registered women to approach them as well. Male members can decline an approach, but I doubt many men actually do. Oh! But not me. I’m currently dating someone, so I’m not accepting offers or reverse offers. Sorry!

Does the questioner not have a sex drive? As the saying goes, “Heroes are fond of women.” Elites tend to be open about their desires, and it’s often because they have ambition that they accomplish so much. I think energetic men are also relatively likely to have stronger sex drives. Just as with pursuing work, it’s an instinctive hunting drive. When it comes to relationships with women, I think men may feel they’ve “won” someone over by having sex with her. They may also feel accepted because she was willing to be intimate with them, which satisfies their need for validation. You’re the one assuming that it’s dirty or disgusting, so why not take a chance and try having sex just once—with someone you like, or with an older man who’s experienced and has a good personality? It’s a natural instinct built into human beings—a function designed to help us pass on our superior genes. That’s why it’s made to feel pleasurable, to encourage us to do it… It’s basically a legal drug that makes your brain release dopamine, haha. The good feeling you get from sports and the pleasure of sex are both healthy, I think.

Your best person to consult is yourself. How you choose to live is different for everyone, and I don’t think it’s something you need to ask other people about.

Please register with Universe as an A-type woman. If you’re really that attractive, I’d be happy to discuss things if you sent me a reverse offer. No intimacy is perfectly fine—I wouldn’t lay a finger on you. I’m already satisfied with the other women in my life. And of course, I wouldn’t make any dirty jokes either. At the very bottom of this anonymous question box, there’s a link called “Contact.” Click it and send: “To President Maezawa: I’d like to make a reverse offer to the respondent, Makeotoko. I’ve received permission through this question.” Be sure to include the URL to this question. Huh? Is that not what you meant? Still, I really would love to meet you. Excluding the ace who made it into the Hall of Fame, the woman I’ve met most often—and who’s my absolute favorite—is an A-type woman. She has a serious boyfriend whom she desperately wants to marry, so I haven’t laid a finger on her. But she’s genuinely fun to be around, so we meet at least five times a month. We’ve never once talked about anything dirty. I just listen to her gush about her boyfriend the whole time. We’re planning an overnight trip in the fall, and she’s agreed to sleep in the same room. I don’t get worked up at all. Just having her there is soothing—she’s an amazing woman. In the old days, people apparently waited until their wedding night to be intimate—both partners being virgins. Those were good times, weren’t they? I wish there were more A-type women... P.S. There’s a good chance the person asking the question doesn’t actually know what “reverse offer” means... Could someone explain it to them? m(__)m Alternatively, they could ask anonymously, “What is a reverse offer?”

Are your parents advising you not to have sex before marriage? You, as attractive as you are, were also born because your parents had sex. Of course, I don’t think you should do it indiscriminately, but if you meet someone you genuinely want to date and feel you can trust, I think it can be a necessary step in deepening your love for each other. There’s nothing dirty about it. Even in a normal romantic relationship, I’ve never rushed into sex, so there are certainly people who prefer not to hurry. For now, I think it would be good to deepen your relationship with someone like that. If you want to talk to someone, wouldn’t your best friend be the right person?