I can’t say what you all look like, but the men answering here all seem very sensible and quick-witted.

Not even once. When I make an offer, the arrangement generally continues for a certain period, so I don’t make offers that often to begin with.

There are quite a few of them. Just because someone is intelligent or has common sense doesn’t mean they’re necessarily capable of having an adult relationship (intimate). And I think that’s perfectly fine. Women have the right to choose and to say no. That’s one of the good things about dating clubs.

Sure, it’s happened a few times. The one that bothered me most was when I really hit it off with a Type B woman and things developed into an adult relationship from the very first meeting. We seemed to be getting along well over LINE, but then she suddenly stopped responding partway through. Later, when I asked the club whether something had happened, the feedback from the first date was apparently something like, “I had a really enjoyable date.” (Once) That’s probably the only case with arranged dates. Since letter dates and online dates became available, I’ve mostly used those, but in the early days there were several times when things ended before we even made it to the first meeting. I was stood up for the initial meetup during a letter date. (Once) Early on with online dates, I ended a phone call and contacted her to arrange an in-person meeting, but she read the message and never replied. (Once) Around the same time, during another online date, she stopped replying while we were discussing making plans to meet. (Once) I’ve been on around 40–50 dates, and that’s about the extent of it. Now that I’m used to it, it hasn’t happened even once recently. Getting accustomed to things really makes a big difference, doesn’t it? lol It’s also important to properly figure out what caused the failure.

I’ve never lost touch with someone after our first date, but I’ve had several women fade out during the course of an arrangement. In every case, it happened when they tried to take one foot outside the boundaries of papa-katsu. By “take one foot outside,” I mean when the woman starts hinting at things like, “I want you to make me your girlfriend.” I’m fine with being in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, but I have no intention of getting married. So I always make it clear: “I’m fine with dating you, and I’ll continue supporting you as before even if we start seeing each other. But there’s nothing beyond that, so I want you to understand that.” I assume those words are what make the woman lose interest. I think it would be despicable to control a woman by acting as if marriage might still be possible. Since there’s no future with me, I want to draw a clear line in the relationship—that’s what the allowance is for. So whenever someone seriously approaches me, I make sure to tell her that marriage isn’t happening. I suppose they come to their senses. At that moment, they probably realize the very obvious truth that I’m just some ordinary older guy. And yes, I’m just some ordinary older guy. I’ve also had incredibly attractive women walk away. She had a great personality, our physical compatibility was amazing, and she was beautiful. But I believe you should always be honest that there’s no future together, regardless of the circumstances, so that’s what I do. When a woman leaves because of that, all I can do is wipe away my tears and see her off, no matter how much I still regret losing her. Oh, I just remembered one exception. There was one woman I’d only been on one date with who kept inviting me shopping, saying, “I’d like our next date to be a shopping date.” This continued right up until the day before our second date, and I was getting fed up. So I told her, “Let’s not meet tomorrow. I’ll transfer the adult allowance for the cancellation.” She suddenly flew into a rage, unleashed a torrent of abusive language, and then cut off all contact. I’ve reported her to the club as well. She was an extremely beautiful woman—about a 72 on the facial-attractiveness scale, the kind of person you rarely meet through a club. We had become intimate on our first date and things seemed to be going well, but the verbal abuse was seriously frightening.

I think there were probably several. After all, he was an unreasonable papa (a male supporter) who not only didn’t hand over the allowance upfront, but could go on 50 or even 100 dates with women from the club without ever discussing the allowance—or would leave the amount undecided, changing it from one day to the next. Naturally, women with proper papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) experience and knowledge would cut him off immediately. I’m starting to remember a few things. There was a B-type, black-label college student who said she had a papa (a male supporter) who paid ¥40,000 per dinner-only (no intimacy) pay-per-meeting arrangement at the time. Her thank-you LINE messages were flawless and perfectly composed. A true papa-katsu professional. Of course, the fact that we were talking about such things meant neither of us was particularly interested in the other to begin with… And the fact that I didn’t even discuss the allowance meant it was already over, didn’t it? Even so, I remember being amazed by how exceptionally good she was at writing thank-you messages. I suppose the women I liked showed it in their actions and expressions. They wouldn’t just send a thank-you LINE—they’d continue sending lots of messages throughout the day. Girls who only sent a thank-you LINE never contacted me again, so I imagine I probably blocked some of them too. I remember two women I wanted to see again. One was a B-type platinum woman. We went to a hotel on the second date, and on the way home from our third date, I asked, “What should we do after this?” She replied, “I don’t have anything planned, so it’s fine.” For a moment, I hesitated over whether we should go to a hotel every time or not. Then I said, “Well, let’s do it next time,” and went home that day. We never met again after that. The other was a C-type woman—I can’t remember her class. On the first day, I said we’d just have dinner, so we met and parted ways after a dinner date. She sent a thank-you LINE, but that was it. (Looking back, it’s strange that I didn’t even invite her anywhere despite her being C-type… I was such an idiot back then.) Could the fact that I never discussed the allowance with any of the three women, including the first one, have been part of the reason?

I’m just an ordinary real grandpa in my 60s, with grandchildren（笑）. I graduated from a high school that wasn’t exactly known for its academic level, and the women I date are far quicker thinkers than I am（笑）. > Have you ever had someone stop responding after your first date, such as blocking you on LINE? It happened once, shortly after I joined the dating club. She had already withdrawn. She had been saying various things about me, so I asked the club to verify the facts. However, they told me they couldn’t investigate because she had already withdrawn. If you’re going to leave the club, I wish people would settle all their outstanding matters before doing so.

Two people over three years. They quit soon after joining, so I guess they may have been hidden “A” types.

Thank you. I’ve never had a woman I wanted to contact become unreachable. About two years ago, a woman I had offered to meet and had only seen once messaged me and said she wanted to meet. When I turned her down, she admonished me, saying, “If you have no intention of meeting, then block me.” I complied and blocked her, though she may have blocked me as well.