About how often do women ideally want to have sex?

With someone you like, you can do it as many times as you want. Even women probably want to do it a lot with a youthful, handsome guy. If you put yourself in a woman’s shoes in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan): Since you’re in your 40s, imagine you had to do mama-katsu with a woman in her 60s for the money. How many times could you manage? lol If she were a youthful and sexy woman in her 60s, maybe you could somehow manage twice? Though that might be pushing it. Normally, wouldn’t you feel like you’d barely manage even once?

Look closely at the person you’re dealing with. When it comes to anything, everyone has their own ideal. To “Makeotoko”: That’s right. Just because she’s a Premium Black woman doesn’t mean I’m going to step up to the plate five or ten times. That said, even with a Gold woman, the setup fee still hurts if it ends up being wasted. So I don’t take pointless shots. If I find someone attractive, I’ll take my chances—even if she’s Premium Black, going in with a bamboo spear (¥50,000 pay-per-meeting). Of course, I’m not saying I’ve never lost. But if I fought and lost, I have no regrets, and I don’t feel the setup fee was wasted.

About how often do women ideally want to have sex? If it were an ex I truly loved, I could do it every day, even multiple times a day… I basically like maintaining a connection, so with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), my ideal would be about three times a week. But if the papa is aggressively focused on getting what he wants because he’s paying an allowance… I’d probably only want to meet twice a month, and have sex just once that day. In that situation, I’d probably dislike even kissing or being licked.

As everyone else has said, I think it depends on the person you’re seeing. I’m not sure whether you mean how many times per meeting or how often during your monthly dates, but if you mean the former, I’d recommend keeping it to once unless she’s genuinely fond of you. This has come up in the Q&A box several times, too. If you mean the latter, it depends on her personality, so I think it’s best to discuss it with her. In my case, perhaps because I’m not very good at it, I haven’t had an adult relationship every time with the girls I’ve dated long-term in the past. They have their periods, too, but I’ve never avoided meeting them on those days. If you ask whether I want to do it every time, I probably do. But I’m satisfied with an ordinary date as well, and I feel that in many cases, the other person actually viewed that more favorably. I think I might be the type who feels fulfilled by the romantic desire Mr. Mac mentioned before. Though maybe they just think I’m an easy mark（笑).

If I were answering bluntly, I’d say “one round only.” Women who want a second round are pretty rare. That answer would be boring, though, so I’ll answer on the assumption that we’re talking about a first intimate encounter with a Type C woman, starting from the initial meeting. ① First meeting and 90 minutes of dinner ② Paying the bill, then taking separate taxis to the hotel ③ 30 minutes of light conversation, brushing teeth, showering, etc. ④ Around 60 minutes of intimacy ⑤ 15 minutes of pillow talk ⑥ 15 minutes to shower and get ready to leave We part ways after about four hours in total. As for what happens in ④, my goal is: “Two external orgasms plus two internal orgasms.” I can control my ejaculation, so I’m not particular about how many times I finish. I don’t do two shots—zero or one. As for the idea of a first or second round: when the woman is worn out and I ask, “Shall we take a break?” and she nods, that’s roughly what I consider the end of the first round. At that point, I usually haven’t finished. If she seems concerned and asks, “You haven’t finished yet, right?” then I’ll finish for her. If I’m told to come, I can do it right away. ■ Intimacy from the second meeting onward When it’s our second meeting or later, how I approach things depends on whether the woman enjoys intimacy. If I couldn’t make her climax during our first encounter, my only goal is getting her to climax internally, so I stay completely focused on that. The foreplay becomes more thorough than it was the first time. If she climaxed several times during our first encounter, I shift toward expanding the range of things we try—such as helping someone squirt if she never has before, or blindfolding her. Once we’re having fun, the whole “how many rounds” thing stops mattering. The only thing I pay attention to is when we need to leave. ※No matter how much she seems to be enjoying herself, I always stick strictly to the agreed departure time. I don’t have any particular aversion to intimacy, but even so, my impression is that few women actually want a second round. If she’s a monthly arrangement who thinks of me as her “boyfriend papa,” then there’s no need to worry about doing several rounds or even three shots. But if we only have a casual papa (male supporter) relationship, it’s better to keep the room stay to two hours, or three at most, and limit it to one round so you don’t end up disliked. ■ Addendum About 99% of the claims from men saying things like “I keep thrusting until the woman can’t move anymore” are lies. Thrusting takes an incredible amount of stamina. On top of that, you need to be fairly well-endowed. It’s almost impossible to have both. Once sex goes beyond a certain point, it becomes a sport. Papas should stop thinking only about ejaculation and start training their bodies. Weight training alone isn’t enough. You need to do serious running, too. That said, in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), a smaller penis that finishes quickly is probably more popular. Addendum 2 For a Premium Black woman, standing at the plate once isn’t going to hurt her or inconvenience her, so it doesn’t really mean anything. ○The key point is that whenever a Premium Black woman is registered, you have to step up to the plate every time—that is, pay the setting fee.○ That setting fee hurts, doesn’t it? People like me and Kamihikōki can easily predict the adult allowance the woman is probably being offered by other papas. In other words, we know that going in with an allowance of 50,000 yen per meeting is like heading into battle armed with a bamboo spear. The question is whether you can still pay the setting fee and step up to the plate despite knowing that. I don’t think Dai would step up to the plate either. One at-bat is one thing, but five, ten, or twenty at-bats changes the whole situation. If you say you can step up to the plate, then please put it into practice. I’m sure Maezawa would be delighted♪ If it’s just a one-at-bat showdown, one of my former aces is looking for a papa—but with 50,000 yen per meeting, the setting terms can’t be adjusted… Maybe I’ll browse the new registrations at the Kobe–Kyoto branch and leave a message in the question box saying, “This person!” Then Top Gun might join in, too, lol.

Men want to do it every time, and women want their allowance every time… So there are plenty of cases where it happens every time, but some girls don’t want every meeting to be only about that. In the end, intimacy happens when the mood strikes. Because both of us have been holding back (hmm? Maybe it’s just me… though that probably means she really wants to see me), when it finally happens, it’s all the more satisfying and exciting. Even when it happens every time, there’s a difference between doing it out of habit and having an amazing time. Surprisingly, doing it only once in a while can also make things more exciting. Even if it’s out of habit, when it comes to a longtime girlfriend (or ex-wife) or a wife, that isn’t necessarily a bad thing. You may be doing it out of affection or habit, but there’s also that unspoken rhythm where you confirm your feelings and experience a sense of unity. The same can apply to women from a dating club. Even if the flow is always the same, it’s still possible to feel “satisfied” or think, “That was incredible!” In fact, you could say it’s the ultimate form of having refined the same routine. I’ve written before that if, after a woman has climaxed and doesn’t want to be touched, the two of you are compatible enough for gentle, tender caresses from that point to open the door to an unknown world, then if you can enter that new territory together, your bond will become remarkably strong. Because if she can climax intensely, is highly sensitive, or experiences full-body contractions, she may already have been brought to that level of sensitivity by other men… From there, being able to guide her into an unknown world and move forward together is extremely rare. The reason is that the woman is satisfied at that point and considers it the end of the journey, so it comes out as: “I’m going to climax, I’m going to…” “Ah, no, I’m going to…” “I can’t anymore.” “I came.” “Don’t touch me.” Whether the two of you are compatible enough to go beyond that is difficult even for married couples or lovers. A compatibility that lets you move forward together from there is truly deep, and the bond can be so strong that you may become even more inseparable than spouses or lovers… Hmm? Was he asking about the number of times, meaning frequency? Or did he mean that day…? > Kazu and Makeotoko, Lately, I’ve been seeing more girls I feel like making an offer to, so I think I’ll probably make one soon. Since Makeotoko mentioned a “style,” how about I tell her, “I’m the paper airplane from the Question Box,” when making the offer, and submit a new offer? > Makeotoko, Reverse offers are a separate category, and I never expect one to come through just because I answer questions there. So when one does arrive, I accept it as a life experience and a keepsake. Since it’s a rare opportunity. I’m the type who sees a girl with zero offers and feels like making her an offer and giving her an allowance (though in reality, I don’t make the offer… unless there’s a reverse offer or she says something like “That sounds wonderful”). That’s just how I feel. Once, I made an offer to a girl with zero offers who had received a “That sounds wonderful” response—not a reverse offer. She was Platinum, and it wasn’t that she was unattractive; apparently, the casual numbers in her profile comments were simply too high. She wasn’t one of my favorites, but she was a good girl, and I didn’t feel right abandoning her, so although the allowance was on the low side, I met her a few times a month, thinking it would be until she found another papa. Naturally, she must have found a papa who offered the usual allowance, because after about six months she stopped contacting me, and that was the end of it. Should I try making offers to Premium Black women like Makeotoko and Ace as well? (No offense intended.) It would also tell me whether they’d meet me regardless of the allowance. If they’ve been receiving a lot from Makeotoko, perhaps they’re well-off enough not to need an allowance from another papa? Recently, I’ve started thinking that maybe I’ll make an offer before too long. However, I feel like I’m at the “finish” square in a game of sugoroku, so perhaps I need some small, commemorative gesture or a little playful idea to mark the occasion. As Makeotoko says: > “The setting fee hurts, doesn’t it?” That’s certainly true. And this is important, too: > “Whenever a Premium Black woman registers, I basically step up to the plate and pay the setting fee every time.” I think you need fifty or even a hundred at-bats to meet a woman with the four qualities Makeotoko described—someone truly compatible with you. Which point along the way you meet her is partly a matter of luck… Sometimes being the first to make an offer pays off. Other times, you may find the perfect match after she has received a flood of offers and gained plenty of experience with papas. And after dozens of at-bats, I’ve continued going into battle knowing that… > “It’s like going to the battlefield armed with a bamboo spear.” I have no intention of carrying long-range weapons… (Though now that I’m no longer in my forties, the speed at which my skin is aging is astonishing. It really makes you appreciate Nobunaga’s “life is but fifty years”… Still, there is a certain appeal that can only come from someone who has begun to become conscious of death.) > “Maybe I’ll look through the new registrations at the Kobe–Kyoto branch and send a message through the Question Box saying, ‘This is the one!’” Should I go along with that?

It obviously depends on the woman and the person she’s seeing. How many decades have you been a man? Marika

I think it depends on the woman, the person she’s seeing, and the nature of their relationship.