You sometimes seem to scold women quite harshly in your answers—is that popular with women who are into that (M-types)?

Could it be that you’ve fallen for that male respondent? Oh, that’s scary... If you leave him alone, it’s a sign that he’s saying goodbye. Try it once as an experiment.

In papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), a man’s feelings are expressed through the allowance he offers and how often he wants to meet, while a woman’s feelings are shown by contacting him to say she wants to meet. So if the woman doesn’t reach out, there’s no need for the papa (a male supporter) to contact her. Even in ordinary dating, men make an effort to get a positive reaction from women by taking action, treating them well, and making them happy or interested. So if the woman doesn’t contact him, he may conclude that his feelings didn’t get through—that it just wasn’t meant to be. When it comes to getting a woman interested, I found that with women I met outside the club, rather than trying to get their contact information—as most men probably do—I gave them mine instead. They would always contact me afterward, perhaps because it made them curious. I think the same applies at a club: you need to leave enough of an impression at the first meeting to make her think, “There’s something different about this person,” and spark her interest.

> For a woman who seems to have plenty of options, does giving her space—meaning not reaching out proactively—have any effect once the relationship has progressed to a certain point? I don’t think so, lol. You should try it and see.