I replied to his message saying, “When are you free next week?” but he’s left me on unread.
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This is a private romantic relationship, so what is this guy’s deal??
He messaged me on Friday, and I replied, “Wednesday works for me next week—I’ll have plenty of time!” But he left it unread all weekend.
I also sent, “If Wednesday doesn’t work, another day is fine too!” but he left that unread as well.
Should I send another follow-up message?
What is this guy’s deal, seriously?
Was he attacked by a lion or something?
We’ve been having a good run of dinners, and it doesn’t feel like he’s uninterested either, but...
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As others have said, I think you may not be a high priority for him.
You can send a follow-up message, but this kind of situation will probably continue. He may get in touch once he’s finished making arrangements with the others.
Also, it’s fairly easy to keep having dinner together when things are going well, so that alone doesn’t necessarily mean he’s interested. If he were genuinely interested, he probably wouldn’t have handled things the way he did this time.
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I think many men first ask about a woman’s availability and then decide what to do with their own schedule.
You can follow up by message or not, but either way, you won’t be able to meet unless he has an open day.
During holidays like Obon or New Year’s, it’s understandable if you can’t meet. Rather than focusing on that, I think it’s better to consider when you’ll be able to meet after the holidays.
If a day when he happens to be free coincides with a day that works for you, you could still meet during Obon.
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You call it a private romantic relationship, but did you meet through a matchmaking app like Tokyo Calendar?
Even if you keep going out for dinner and things progress afterward, it seems like it’ll just end with you having sex for free.
You may be the only one who sees it as romance—the man probably just considers you a casual sex partner.
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I tend to mark messages as read right away, but coordinating schedules is tough, isn’t it? lol
It’d be so much easier if everyone replied immediately.
It’s not exactly first come, first served, and I have my own priorities too.
And when the schedules line up perfectly, it’s strangely satisfying.
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I’m with Kazu on this one.
There’s a very good chance you’re his backup woman.
He’s free next week and has probably been messaging his favorite woman—the one he’s been chasing—but she’s either left him on read or hasn’t opened his messages. Still, he doesn’t want to go without sex next week, so he likely contacted you as his backup.
Even if you successfully secure that lion’s schedule, he may still cancel at the last minute, saying, “I’ve got a slight fever.”
That probably means his first-choice woman suddenly became available.
To be safe, why not contact your backup man as well?
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I think he’s probably still working out his schedule for Obon.
He likely has several promising women in the mix, is checking everyone’s availability, and waiting to hear back.
That happens to me sometimes with a dating club, too.
P.S. The reason he hasn’t even opened your message is probably that, in his social circle, people don’t mark messages as read until they’re ready to reply.
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