I'm considering signing up with a dating club.

I think B is fine, but I don’t understand why you have to meet four times before making a decision. I only offer C-type arrangements, but I once made an offer to a B-type woman. At the very least, I’d like her to be clear by the second meeting about whether it’s a yes or a no. Otherwise, unless she’s exceptionally attractive, I can’t help wondering if she’s just someone who keeps receiving an allowance for dinner only (no intimacy). Please do your best not to come across that way.

It’s hard to pick up on such subtle nuances just from a question here. Either way, if that’s what they’re saying, I imagine the staff will probably tell you, “If you’re concerned, wouldn’t it be better to choose Type A?”—and you’ll end up choosing A. So you might as well just go to the interview as is. If they had said “four times if possible,” I’d understand. But considering that they added “or more,” it sounds like they want to drag things out for ten meetings or so, with dinner only, right? Then afterward, they’ll probably say something like, “I realized that an adult relationship (intimate) would be difficult after all.” That possibility seems pretty obvious to me. With that in mind, it feels more like Type A than Type B in terms of the dating preference. If what they mean is that it would take three or four meetings to reach a decision, then I’d say it’s probably Type B.

As long as you make it clear to the staff during the interview that you’re a virgin, that you’re prepared for what may come, but that you want to go on a few dates before deciding, I think either A or B would be fine. Being a virgin is fairly sought after. That also means you should understand that you may receive offers from men specifically looking for that.

Taro’s answer is absolutely spot-on. If you want to be a Type B, write in your profile that you’re a virgin, but you’ll decide after meeting five times. Then just block the creepy old guys after meeting them four times, before the fifth. Actually, if you keep doing that, people will give you feedback saying you’re secretly Type A. So it’s fine to block the creepy old guys without meeting them a second time. Try asking for an amount you’d be happy with as early as possible.

Taro’s answer is so perfect I can’t even argue with it. Now that I’m wide awake, I’m heading to a 24-hour gym to punish my back. To explain it through strength training—sorry for naming you, Taro—but I think the right approach is to make a plan from both sides, front and back, just like in your (as usual?) answer this time. Just as you need to build your back (the “back side”) if you want a bigger chest (the “front side”), and just as you do squats when you’ve hit a plateau on the bench press. …Does that make any sense at all? lol

I think you could register as Type B, but I don’t think it would be wise, since there’s a high chance you’ll ultimately end up feeling uncomfortable and becoming even more distrustful of men. From a man’s perspective, Type B is fine on the second meeting. Technically, it means “from the second meeting onward,” but people naturally interpret the “onward” in whatever way suits them. You’re doing the same thing—the hesitation you feel is all contained in the “preferably from the fourth meeting onward” part. Women may be looking for money and men may be driven by sexual desire, but while both sides are seriously looking for someone, I don’t think it’s a good idea to leave things vague with an “onward.” If you actually tried it that way, you’d probably come away thinking things like: “I said from the fourth meeting onward, but they’re all so pushy,” “How can someone with enough age difference to be my parent be this impatient?” “They keep pressuring me to meet again, touching me, and trying to kiss me,” or “This guy saying he’s good at dealing with virgins is seriously creepy…” Men, meanwhile, may end up with similarly frustrated impressions from the opposite perspective: “Isn’t she ultimately just a dinner-only girl?” And then there’s the transportation fee of ¥20,000 or more—what is this, some amateur hostess club? In the end, I think there’s also a high chance of some kind of trouble arising with a man. It becomes an unfortunate situation where nobody benefits. This is hypothetical, but I think you should ask yourself, “Could I start working in the adult entertainment industry tomorrow?” If you can’t honestly say yes, then Type A is the safer choice. Also, even if you think you can handle something, you may find that you can’t when the moment actually comes. Some people feel so gloomy and unable to move on the day of a date. That can’t be helped. Even then, don’t blame yourself—just tell the man honestly about those feelings of hesitation. The chances of finding a man who will properly accept that may be less than fifty percent, but filtering people that way is extremely important if you want to pursue the kind of arrangement you’re looking for. Taro

From the club’s perspective, having an adult relationship on the second meeting is pretty much the definition of a B-type arrangement. But if that’s the case, you’d be expected to have an adult relationship almost every time from the third meeting onward. In reality, she was probably a C-type who labeled herself B-type as a safety net. I think someone who’s genuinely B-type wouldn’t want an adult relationship every single time they meet, so having one around the fourth or fifth meeting would probably be more typical of a true B-type. So even if you’re not a virgin, that pace is perfectly fine. You have plenty of other options too. There’s absolutely no need to rush.

I was watching a horror channel on YouTube and, before I knew it, it had gotten this late. I got chills, so I decided to check the Q&A. When you say “that kind of relationship”… do you mean an adult relationship (intimate)? If you haven’t had any experience yet, I definitely think you should start with B or A. But wouldn’t you rather have your first time with someone your own age, through a regular relationship? Are you really okay with it being some older guy? Do you perhaps think your virginity will sell for a high price? Somehow, it just seems like such a waste. ☆ Are this many likes just people messing around?