I was approached by an older man who treated me to a nice meal. (He says this could count as papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but it could also be considered a date.)

It’s okay. As women get older, they naturally stop being fussed over as much. So you don’t need to worry—you’ll eventually stop having people treat you and be forced to face reality. Until then, whether it’s working at a hostess club, doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), or holding down a proper daytime job, I feel it’s best to do what you can and save as much money as possible. There are several female members whose profiles say they want cosmetic surgery. I don’t make offers to them, though...

If you’re asking a question like this here, you clearly have no real intention of getting your sense of things back, do you? People who genuinely want to get back on track don’t sit around complaining on sites like this. They think for themselves first and then act accordingly. By all means, tell them at the interview, “I want cosmetic surgery, but…” That way, I won’t have to run into you, so I’d actually appreciate it if you said that.

I’m voting for Paper Airplane! > Once you step into papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you enter a different world and can never go back. I don’t see it that way, and I’m confident I could quit anytime. The woman I’m seeing also says—though I can’t tell whether she’s being sincere or just flattering me—that once our relationship ends, she won’t do papa-katsu anymore, and that when the time comes, she’ll definitely move on from our relationship. Judging from the context of our conversations and the way I’ve felt about her over the course of our relationship, I think she may actually mean it. > But it’s also a world with a certain amount of—no, that much—value. Both she and I seem to feel that way. I believe I’ve mentioned her here before, but she says, “papa-katsu isn’t so bad.” Besides providing her with financial support, I’ve also been teaching her various things—how to look at and approach life, and even little things like, “Line up your shoes when you enter a room!” Maybe it’s helped her in some way, and she can feel herself growing from an unsophisticated girl into a refined young woman. Now then: > I never used to think that men my age earning around 200,000 yen a month were poorly paid. > Am I broken? You are. > I’m unemployed, but if I work part-time at a hostess club, do you think I’ll get my sense of money back? I don’t think so. Try getting a part-time daytime job instead. That might help you regain some perspective.

Once you step into papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), it feels like entering another world—and there’s no going back. That said, it really is a world worth the price—or rather, worth everything it demands—for those men and women who enter it…

I think it’s perfectly normal for a man to pay for a woman on a date. I’ve been doing that since I was a student, as far as I can remember. The rambling nature of your question, along with your idea of working at a hostess club to readjust your sense of money, makes me think that it’s not your financial sense that’s broken, but your ability to think things through. You’re free to say that you want money for cosmetic surgery. You should simply explain it that way.