I get the impression that men who can consistently give their favorite woman 100,000 yen on a pay-per-meeting basis are often the kind who eventually move to a monthly arrangement or offer something beyond the allowance.

I provide a reasonably generous allowance and probably behave more gentlemanly than average, so of course I value the women I’m seeing while we’re together. But given the nature of these relationships, I’ve never casually thought, “I want to stay together for the rest of our lives.” Generally speaking, “for life” would mean marriage, but in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and dating clubs, I don’t think it usually works that way. We’re filling gaps in each other’s everyday lives, and I’m content with that. Perhaps some relationships will continue for a long time, but even when we say “for life,” men—including me—will generally pass away much earlier, so it somehow doesn’t feel like the kind of “life” I have in mind. Also, I don’t think there’s any “barrier at 10.” Sometimes I give 10 or more, and sometimes less, so I don’t feel there’s any particular threshold. There’s no real limit. That said, I’ve never felt that the allowance was a waste with anyone I’ve met more than once. Everyone I’ve met through a dating club, I’ve seen at least twice, so I’ve never once felt it was money wasted.

If you’ve ever had an experience involving money where you thought, “I’d like to stay involved with this man for the rest of my life,” I’d love to hear about it! Whether money is involved or not, most relationships end up lasting a lifetime in one form or another. I imagine the same is true for one’s favorite club woman. I assume that’s the kind of relationship the person asking the question has in mind. Men who don’t want to place much emphasis on the power of money probably won’t appeal to you, and you simply won’t be able to increase their interest either. From their perspective: Women who don’t place much emphasis on money all seem to be wonderful people with great personalities. Even among the beautiful women in the world and those ranked Premium Black, there are many wonderful women who are highly interested in things besides their allowance. In fact, unless a woman places greater importance on things beyond the allowance, I don’t feel she can truly be called unattainable, or deserve labels like Premium or Black.

The papas who moved to a monthly arrangement early on were generally the ones I found most trustworthy as people. That said, it really comes down to compatibility. I’m sure there were some pay-per-meeting papas with wonderful personalities too, but I couldn’t help thinking, “He’s probably seeing multiple women.” With those on a monthly arrangement, I got the impression that many of them wanted to focus from the start on just one woman they had chosen.

If I like a woman and she can’t get by without 100,000 yen per pay-per-meeting date, I’ll pay it. If I’m not interested, I end things.

I don’t think that barrier exists in society—it exists within you. It simply means you value men who are wonderful enough to give you 10 pay-per-meeting allowances in a row. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s perfectly natural to like people whose values are similar to your own. I’ve never wanted to be with someone for life because of money.

My minimum allowance for a pay-per-meeting arrangement is 10, so I give everyone around 10–20 each time, regardless of whether we see each other regularly or not. There’s one girl I give 100 to, and she’s told me that even if she gets a boyfriend or gets married, she doesn’t want to end things with me. But that wouldn’t really work, so I’m helping her look for a marriage partner. Still, the thought of breaking up scares me… I’ll probably never meet another girl as cute as her. Maybe the reason I’m always seeing more than ten women is because I’m afraid of losing her. I do have a girlfriend, but this girl is more important to me. Maybe it’s because I have someone I give 100 to, but amounts up to around 15 don’t bother me at all. I know there are papas who give more than I do—especially in Kobe—so I still have to keep working at it. The greatest kindness a papa can show a woman is giving her a generous allowance. Treating a younger woman kindly is just a given, so I want to show my sincerity by giving her a proper allowance. By the way, I’m usually pretty frugal. I hardly ever buy drinks at convenience stores, I scrutinize price tags and buy heavily discounted items that are close to expiring at the supermarket, I only own two watches—one of them is a smartwatch—and I drive a Japanese car. I also live in a really tiny place. I do papa-katsu because I hardly spend money on myself and would rather give a lot to the women who treat me well.