I’m the person who asked about the 41-year-old man who never seems to ask me out.

My previous answer was about how I act in ordinary romantic relationships, not papa-katsu. I would never do heavy making out like that in papa-katsu (^_^;) Although, when I was trying to win over an A-type woman, we got into a good mood while driving, so I touched her thighs with my hand and we made out while waiting at a red light. In the end, she took care of me orally in an empty parking lot by the coast, and we ended up dating＾＾； That said, I recently won over a lounge hostess outside of papa-katsu through some pretty intense making out. I’m good with my hands, and during the pillow talk after our first time, she told me: “When you used your fingers on me, it felt so amazing that I wanted to go to a hotel. I figured you must be really good in bed—how embarrassing.” The way I win someone over depends on the person and the situation. Recently, outside of papa-katsu, I won over a hairdresser just by talking while she was styling my hair. I simply let her complain about her boyfriend and nodded along. You should ask for advice from someone who’s good at creating romantic opportunities outside of papa-katsu. Edit: Obviously, behind every success, there have been countless failures. It’s not like I only approach women I can win over. The secret is to approach beautiful women and get rejected over and over. The 41-year-old man you’re seeing simply hasn’t been rejected enough, so he’s afraid of failing and won’t make out with you or touch you. A man who can’t even make a move like that isn’t a “man.” I wonder if he even has the equipment... After all, he’s making you anxious and nothing is progressing. He’s not much different from a papa (a male supporter) who tries to move toward an adult relationship (intimate) without telling you the allowance.

> Does it make a difference who makes the first move when it comes to how the relationship develops afterward? It won’t necessarily change the nature of the relationship, but if you invite him, he may see you as a more proactive woman. It can also make him more likely to become suspicious if something happens. If you don’t make a move, the relationship may not progress at all, and before you know it, it could naturally fade away. In that sense, the relationship would change. Only God knows which choice is right. I think that’s just how connections work.

If he’s 41 and the kind of man who gives you that special sense of comfort and security—someone who makes you think, “I could marry him and spend my later years in peace”—then surely he’s already married… Is he really single? Even so, anyone who can exude that kind of confidence is already incredibly popular with women. He’s a playboy, even if he doesn’t look like one.