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Jun 5, 2022 06:12
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A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
When I go on dates with women, I usually wear Uniqlo.
Typically, I’ll wear a dress shirt with slacks, and in winter, a cashmere sweater.
I just try not to look too much like I’m dressed in everyday casual clothes.
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Other
Since about 95% of men look sharper in a suit, I think wearing one lowers the risk of getting it wrong. That said, depending on where you’re going, casual wear may be more appropriate, so consider the specific time, place, and occasion.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I wear my usual everyday clothes from the very first meeting.
Nothing different from usual. It’s the same as what I’d wear to the convenience store nearby.
> Nana
> If you have good taste, UNIQLO is perfectly fine too.
I agree. I wear UNIQLO all the time, even for first meetings. Whether it’s a high-end French restaurant, a luxury city hotel, or Yoshinoya, I dress the same.
That said, I have absolutely no sense of style. My wife tears into me and tells me I’m never, ever allowed to buy clothes myself, so I’m only permitted to wear clothes she gives me.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
> Is casual everyday clothing okay as long as it isn’t tacky?
Exactly. However, keep in mind that the standard is what women consider acceptable—not what you personally think is fine.
As I mentioned before, a woman complained about a man who showed up for a date in a tracksuit.
I don’t know whether he thought it looked clean because it had been properly washed, but tracksuits are not okay. Absolutely not.
So, given that you’re asking this question in the first place, I think it would be safest to wear at least a jacket.
Once you get more used to it, you’ll probably develop a better sense of what kind of clothing is acceptable.
綾瀬なな
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Other
At your first meeting, look her in the eye and ask what she usually wears when she goes out.
If she’s lying, it’ll show on her face.
Then tell her what you usually wear when you go shopping.
If you have good taste, even UNIQLO is perfectly fine.
Just make sure you don’t choose a woman who’s into Gothic Lolita fashion.
Actually, while I was out on a date with my papa yesterday, the man was dressed very stylishly, but the woman was wearing Gothic Lolita… My papa was staring too, though for an entirely different reason（笑）
It would be embarrassing to be seen with her.
Start by gathering information, just like you would in a meeting.
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Casual is fine for women, but I personally wear a suit or jacket no matter the occasion.
> Is it okay to wear casual clothes as long as they don’t look tacky?
I wouldn’t say it’s not allowed, but I don’t understand why you’d let your guard down at that point.
✕ Is casual clothing okay as long as it doesn’t look tacky?
○ Is casual clothing okay as long as it’s fashionable?
If you’re genuinely confident in your sense of style, then casual clothes might be fine. But I know I look overwhelmingly better in a suit—and I’m not particularly confident in my fashion sense—so I mainly wear suits.
I obviously don’t wear a suit when I travel, but except in midsummer, I wear a jacket, and a pocket square is a must-have as well. Fashion is directly tied to looking clean and well-groomed, so just like fragrance, it can only work in your favor if you pay close attention to it.
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I agree with Kazu’s comment to some extent, but I think what matters is whether the outfit suits the venue and the woman’s sense of style.
Everyone has their own definition of “uncool,” but personally, if the woman thinks it looks uncool, then it’s uncool.
Even a suit or jacket can look bad if it doesn’t fit properly or if the shirt, tie, and other pieces are poorly coordinated.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I think the right answer depends on where you’re going and the woman’s personal preferences.
👨 Male
Universe member
If she’s comfortable with it, I don’t see a problem.
Next time you meet, you could simply suggest, “Let’s both dress casually.”
If your outfits are too mismatched, it may feel a bit awkward.