It’s perfectly normal to give up when the terms don’t match.
I see every woman on a pay-per-meeting basis, offering an allowance of 50,000 yen each time. I’ve almost never felt strongly enough about someone to date her if she wanted more than that.
The only time I might still want to pursue things despite her asking for more would be if I were her first partner.
But women who ask for a higher allowance often have experience receiving more from other men.
So if the terms don’t line up, I usually end up saying goodbye.
Since turning 30, I’ve been Paper Airplane—the kind of guy women never walk away from, whether they’re girlfriends, ex-wives, former fiancées, or women I met through a dating club.
Generally speaking,
> For example, if she’s beautiful, has a great figure and personality, and I think she’s out of my league, I’ll withdraw myself.
There seem to be more men like that. So the more stunning the woman is, the fewer men are willing to compete for her—and since she usually isn’t that particular about which man she chooses, she’s actually a good target.
Most men seem to assume it’s impossible and lack confidence.
In reality, moderately attractive women often have more competing men pursuing them. They’re also more likely to have specific preferences in men, so I think the competition is much fiercer.
If a man only plays it safe and sticks to competing in that kind of environment, he’ll probably never gain confidence. He may end up giving up on women or deciding not to push himself.
There was a time when I used to attend coupling parties quite often, and more than 60% of the time, I ended up pairing off with the most popular beautiful woman there. The handsome guys would pair up with girls who were sure to choose them, and everyone else would play it safe too, avoiding the most popular woman and aiming to form a couple elsewhere. Even when I didn’t pair up with anyone, I almost always managed to go out afterward with one of the most popular women.
If I were handsome, though, they’d be wary of me as a playboy or someone dangerous, and they definitely wouldn’t come along with me.
Just the other day, a woman told me, “You really benefit from your looks.” Apparently, I’m exactly her type—she dislikes handsome men because she can’t feel at ease around them or help worrying about them, so I’m pretty much ideal for papa-katsu. That’s why I genuinely think every day how glad I am that I’m not handsome. (I was jealous of handsome guys until my twenties, though.)
As for this question:
> Has anyone ever really liked a woman but given up on continuing things with her?
Even if it seems like things might work out, it wouldn’t be enjoyable unless she liked you too, so I think it depends on how she responds.
About two years ago, I had two papa-katsu relationships end amicably—one because she got engaged and the other because she became pregnant.
Recently, one of them sent me a photo of her baby.
