What do you think if the woman you’re seeing has a high-spec boyfriend? Like, a young, handsome guy who graduated from the University of Tokyo’s law school and is over 180 cm tall.
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I talk to my papas about my boyfriend fairly often, but since I’m in Nagoya, they’re mostly Nagoya University graduates. They may be unattractive to average-looking and on the short side, but they’re all proud of their backgrounds, so I can’t exactly tell them about my boyfriend’s credentials too. Would you be put off if the person your date genuinely loves is more impressive than you?
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High specs don’t necessarily mean someone earns a lot or has a great personality, so I wouldn’t back off.
On the contrary, high-spec papas have plenty of competition, so you need to be careful not to let it get out that you’re doing papa-katsu. That’s what I’d be more concerned about.
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As a personal rule, I no longer meet women who have boyfriends. I wouldn’t want to be in their boyfriend’s position.
It doesn’t matter what the boyfriend is like. Even if he were a high-school dropout, 160 cm tall, 100 kg, pale, chubby, bespectacled, and a hardcore otaku, it wouldn’t affect my judgment at all.
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If it’s just what you’ve written here, I don’t think it would put anyone off in particular.
I personally wouldn’t be bothered, but as Aya mentioned, you may want to think carefully before telling your papa (a male supporter) that you have a boyfriend at all.
By the way, if he has those qualities, substantial assets, and a high income, I’d tell you to stop seeing people like me and pursue a proper relationship with him instead.
Also, when it comes to high-status qualities in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and dating clubs, I think financial resources and gentlemanly behavior should be added to the list. So shouldn’t the comparison be based on the overall balance of all those qualities?
Since you’ve posted several times, let me nitpick one detail: being a University of Tokyo graduate is an educational background, not a career history. So, in terms of career history, I assume he hasn’t beaten the papas (male supporters) you’re seeing.
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I don’t think it would put them off at all.
Men who get into these relationships tend to be confident, for better or worse. Many are aware that they have things going for them—assets, life experience, and so on—that younger men can’t necessarily compete with, so I think most wouldn’t mind even if you had a high-achieving boyfriend.
That said, I do get the impression that quite a few men don’t like women who already have boyfriends, so I wouldn’t really recommend going out of your way to mention it.
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Sorry for the back-to-back posts.
There must be something she likes about being with me, so I’m not going to back off.
I do wonder what a guy finds enjoyable about dating a woman who asks the question before this one and this question, though. Maybe she’s incredibly good at sucking cock.
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Since it has nothing to do with dating, it wouldn’t bother me at all.
More than her educational background and things like that, I was more concerned about whether I was good enough for her（笑).
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Not put off at all.
I don’t think you need to worry about it. I wouldn’t consider him high-spec.
P.S. Oh, was this a follow-up post…?
What people find impressive varies from person to person, so what counts as “high-spec” can differ quite a lot depending on the individual.
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I might be a little put off if they looked down on me because of my assets, but otherwise, it doesn’t bother me at all. I only have a high school education, so I’ve never had the upper hand anyway.
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