Sometimes we spend the whole day together or even stay overnight. In situations like that, do you give a larger allowance? Mac, do you still stick to 50,000 yen per meeting even then?

When we’re together, we basically do whatever the girl wants, and she can leave whenever she wants. So even if we spend around 12 hours together on the same day, the allowance stays the same. Some days are adult relationship (intimate), while other times we’ll spend the whole day going out without intimacy—no allowance for an adult relationship. Once it becomes the next day, I consider it a new day, so I guess you could call it a 12-hour cycle. As for the allowance, I haven’t set any specific amount or criteria. But just as you don’t discuss a specific financial arrangement with your wife or girlfriend—you simply want to make her happy—I think it’s natural to want to help a girl you like reach her desired monthly amount. Even without her asking, I think it’s perfectly natural to want to give a girl you like 200,000 yen or more a month. Rather than focusing on the allowance amount, it’s far more important to fulfill the woman’s goals and make sure she enjoys herself.

The girls I’m seeing generally decide for themselves whether to stay longer or spend the night, but depending on my mood, I may still give them something extra. I also take them shopping, so sometimes I provide support in forms other than an allowance. I think that kind of thing can happen naturally when you’re dating someone, so I don’t set completely clear-cut rules about it. As long as both people are happy and the relationship continues, I think there can be many different arrangements.

What other men do or what other women do isn’t the point. What matters is how the woman your question concerns feels about it. That said, if you find it difficult to ask her directly, try looking at it this way: if you took on a job that paid the same amount whether it took a few hours or required an overnight stay, would you feel that was fair? Of course, this isn’t technically a job. But I think it makes a big difference whether you can imagine how you’d feel if you were the one receiving the money. As I said at the beginning, though, the woman’s feelings are what matter most. Even if it feels awkward, I think it’s better to ask her.