I think you should decline.
You don’t know whether he changes the sheets every time or whether he cleans properly.
I feel like it would be upsetting if you went there and ended up seeing things like that.
For now, something along the lines of:
“I’d rather wait until we’re much closer for something like that. Until then, I’d prefer hotels.”
should work.
After that, he may ask, “But aren’t we close enough by now?”
Personally, I’d consider it proof that you’ve become close once he starts buying you a car. But of course, you shouldn’t actually say that. Just keep that as your personal 기준 for whether you’re truly close, and you can honestly say that you’re not there yet.
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Men’s esthetic massage was incredible… What even was that… She was incredibly cute, and the service was amazing. I gave her a little tip on my way out, and she was so happy. PJ girls, if you do this, you’ll have a monthly arrangement with me forever.
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I get invited back to their rooms by some of them, but I absolutely never go. I won’t even go as far as their front door.
I think they’re being considerate because I give a high allowance, but when I think about that, I feel even more hesitant. Still, I really appreciate the thought.
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I sometimes see women here complaining after visiting a man’s place—what you might call a “hookup room”—and finding it dirty.
You should absolutely avoid doing that.
Even if the bedding looks clean, odors can linger, and there’s always the possibility that someone used it and it wasn’t washed afterward.
For turning them down, something like, “I’m not really comfortable going to your place…” should work. Acting a little germ-conscious might make it sound more natural.
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I’ve been invited over to women’s homes before, but I don’t think that should be taken for granted.
I was happy that they trusted me enough to invite me in, but honestly, I can’t say I personally liked it.
That kind of boundary really comes down to each person’s feelings. When turning someone down, I think it’s best to be straightforward and say, “I’m not really comfortable with that.” It keeps things simple.
If you make up some flimsy excuse, they may keep coming back with suggestions that work around it—and that’s annoying, isn’t it? I think it’s important to clearly communicate when you’re not okay with something.
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