A papa I’ve been seeing for about six months said, “We haven’t been able to meet much, so I’d like to send you a gift at home. Could you give me your address?” I don’t want to tell him—how can I avoid giving it to him?
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Even though I never asked, this papa has voluntarily told me his company name, where he lives, and even given me his business card, so I think he wants to know the same things about me. But I don’t want to give him my address.
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If you’re doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with someone you don’t feel comfortable giving your address to, it’ll only cause you stress.
You can’t keep forcing yourself, so it’s better to end things sooner rather than later.
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You get complained at if you don’t give her a White Day present, but when you offer to send one because you can’t meet, she says she doesn’t want to give you her address. Papa (male supporters) really have it tough.
You’re working hard today, too.
As for how to answer, keep apologizing and politely declining, while saying that you’d be happy to receive a present, but even happier if she handed it to you in person—that you’re looking forward to seeing her and it gives you something more to look forward to. Try putting together a message along those lines.
She seems like a nice person, so if it were me, I’d let her send it.
I’m pretty lax about security myself, so I’ll be careful.
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“My parents are toxic and open all the packages and mail addressed to me… So when I shop online, I have things sent to a post office or Yamato delivery office for pickup. I really appreciate how thoughtful you are, but I don’t need any presents since I know it would be a hassle for you ♡ I’m looking forward to seeing you again ♡”
How does this sound?
As in Rin’s answer, I think it would be great if you conveyed how much you’re looking forward to seeing him again.
(By the way, I believe you can also designate a post office that’s farther away from your home for pickup.)
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Don’t tell him. If he turns into a stalker, things could get really bad.
It would be good if there were somewhere that could hold it for you. I wonder if you can have it sent to a Yamato Transport office near your workplace, like using Japan Post’s post office pickup service?
Sorry… I’m not really sure about that.
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I live with my family, so if packages arrive, they get suspicious. Please know that I truly appreciate the thought, but the thought alone is more than enough to make me happy.
I can’t wait to see you. I’m looking forward to the next time we meet!
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