I felt so discouraged when the allowance from a papa (a male supporter) who spent the entire time bragging—especially about being wealthy and “brightening the world by giving money away”!?—turned out to be low. Does that mean I’m not worth much?

I can’t stand listening to bragging and trash-talking—putting others down to make themselves look better—and if the allowance is low too, there’s no second date. If you don’t have another papa (a male supporter), all you can do is put up with it. Marika

Your face must have been twitching—seriously, you handled that well. When he rattled off his bragging stories, didn’t you get the feeling they might be made up?

Didn't you negotiate the allowance beforehand? If you left it entirely up to him, then it's a bit naive to be shocked afterward because there wasn't much in the envelope. It would be a problem if he didn't give you any allowance at all, but next time, make sure you clearly confirm the terms before entering into an adult relationship (intimate).

As Kazu said, let’s stop meeting him and look for someone else. People like this exist in the business world too, so I’m going to walk away before the negativity rubs off on me.

> The papa (a male supporter) who said, “I want to spread money around and brighten up the world!?” If that’s what he meant, you’d normally think he could give you money for dinner only (no intimacy), right? For the sake of your mental well-being, I think it’s better to assume that talk about “the world” was just that—talk. He bragged about being wealthy, but I think it’s better to conclude that it was actually a lie. Someone who truly has money wouldn’t do something that makes a woman feel this way. That said, it seems some men now come from dating apps and think the same amount they paid on the app is enough. So I think you should ask about the allowance before going to a hotel, and decline if you’re not satisfied. > Is it because I’m not worth it? If you stop going to hotels when you’re not comfortable with the terms, you probably won’t have to think that way anymore. Even if the allowance is low, if you think, “He seems fun and kind,” you might choose to go along with it—and you probably wouldn’t think about your own worth at that point. That’s because agreeing simply because he seemed like a good person has nothing to do with your value. If that’s not the case, decide on a minimum allowance in advance. If he offers less, you can say: “Sorry, that allowance won’t work for me, so would it be okay if we called it a day?” Then you can part ways thinking, “Today’s man just wasn’t my type,” instead of questioning your own worth. In any case, don’t agree to anything you’re not comfortable with. That’s the most important thing. If every woman did that, I think allowances for women would gradually go up.

No. As has been pointed out several times in the answers, there’s no connection between the allowance a man offers and a woman’s worth. And while I’m at it, it’s not really related to a man’s wealth or income, either.