Is it really not okay to go straight to a love hotel from the second date onward?
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I’m married, and even if I finish work and start dinner as early as possible, it’s usually around 8 p.m. By the time we finish dinner, go to a hotel, and part ways, it’s around midnight, so it’s difficult for me to meet her unless my wife is away visiting her parents.
I also wonder whether the shorter time might actually be better for the woman. But would it be considered rude—as if I were treating her like a sex worker?
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If your preference is to go straight to a hotel, finish, and leave immediately, I think you’d be better off going to a sex service.
It’s really a matter of what suits you, and that kind of arrangement is what sex services are for.
At a dating club, I think more people are looking for a relationship where they can enjoy things besides intimacy and value getting to know each other as people.
Of course, it varies from person to person. For example, questions sometimes come up in Q&A boxes about women getting ready to leave immediately after things are over.
For that woman, it may be ideal to go straight to a hotel, finish, and leave right away.
In cases like this, I think you should discuss your expectations properly with the club and have them find someone who suits you.
Generally speaking, you’d probably be a better match with a woman whose dating type is D, so I think you should make your offer carefully rather than ignoring the dating types.
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I’d be open to that.
That said, a nice hotel is a must—I’m not comfortable with love hotels. Sorry for being so picky.
If you’re considerate enough to arrange that, I’d be happy to meet at the hotel, enjoy room service and an adult relationship (intimate), then go our separate ways!
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If you’re considerate enough not to make her feel that way, she may not see it like that.
Some women might actually be happy about it, while others may feel disappointed.
If you choose someone looking for a transactional relationship, you may not have to worry about this. But if you want something resembling a genuine romantic relationship without changing your own schedule, that could come across as pretty presumptuous.
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That really depends on what you agree on with the woman.
I often go straight to a hotel too, but I try to make sure it doesn’t feel like it’s only about sex by ordering room service, takeout, or Uber Eats at the hotel.
If it’s just sex and only for a short time, she may feel like she’s being treated as a sex worker.
When my wife is staying at her parents’ place, I try to make it dinner plus a hotel, so she understands that I’m not looking to do nothing but hotels every time.
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How you feel about it depends on the person and the circumstances.
First, I think you should consider either making sure you can meet before 8 p.m. or only seeing her when your wife is away visiting her parents.
As Early-san mentioned, there are times when the woman I’m seeing gets off work at 8 p.m., so I’ll arrange room service or Uber Eats and have dinner and sex in the room.
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If that works for the other person, then I think it’s fine.
I mentioned something similar in another question earlier, but I don’t like that kind of arrangement, so I wouldn’t do an adult relationship (intimate) only.
As someone pointed out in another answer, you could use room service or takeout and make efficient use of your time, spending time together at a hotel without limiting the relationship to an adult relationship (intimate).
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