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Mar 11, 2022 21:33
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🏅 パパ活歴8年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
First, you should go to the hospital and find out exactly what’s causing the itching. That’s where you should start.
Is your papa the only person you’re having sex with? Don’t you have a boyfriend or a casual sex partner? It’s also possible that your boyfriend picked something up from a sex worker and passed it on to you.
I write a column, and in the past, one of my regular girls told me, “My boyfriend has an STI. I wanted to let you know, just in case.” She and Fuu both got tested right away.
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
I feel like a lot of men might get annoyed if you ask it that way.
Rather than focusing on whether it happened this time, you could frame it like:
“I’d like us to continue seeing each other long-term. Would it be difficult for us both to get tested every month?”
I think it would be better to steer the conversation toward both of you getting tested.
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I think that’s completely reasonable.
You could say something like:
“I’m very careful about things like this, so I get tested once every few months. I want you to feel comfortable too, so how about we share our test results before we take things any further? I’m really sorry if this makes you uncomfortable ＞＜, but I truly want to value our relationship.”
If you put it that way, I don’t think they’ll take offense.
Anyone who gets angry about it probably doesn’t understand how frightening STIs can be, including the risk of infertility.
Also, even if you get tested, make sure you still practice safe sex. If your papa (a male supporter) is with another woman the very next day, there’s still a high chance you could catch something.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Given that the person asking the question gets tested regularly, I think it’s reasonable.