Do you honestly tell someone when you don’t like something?
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Like asking them to change their behavior.
I don’t think you can be completely honest in a relationship like this.
People say you shouldn’t put up with things, but what if they’re the only person offering you anything?
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It depends on the man you’re seeing.
I’m the type who wants women to tell me anything, so some women do share all kinds of things with me. It makes intimacy more enjoyable, after all.
That said, I’ve also ended things with someone because of it, so I understand why it can be difficult for women when they have to consider the possibility of the relationship ending.
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I’m not really the type who can be very direct when something bothers me. After all, this is a relationship where I’m receiving money, so I feel like it would be inappropriate to vent my frustrations at the customer who’s paying me.
So I try to gauge how far I can go without being disliked and “get adorably angry.”
My most generous (well-paying) papa sometimes tells me things like, “You’re so loud and annoying,” or “You’ve got me completely tied down.” But if he really starts getting angry, I just look downcast and sincerely apologize, saying something like, “I’m sorry. I just like you too much and get lonely, so I end up saying things like that…”
Then he’ll say, “You do have a cute side, don’t you?” So it works out fine. I’m mentally stabbing my papa over and over, but he hasn’t noticed.
With another papa, I’ve established that I’m a lovesick, obsessive type who gets emotionally unstable because I like him too much. That way, even when I voice minor complaints, they can be brushed off as, “That’s just because you’re obsessive.”
The papa who’s a business owner earning tens of billions is extremely busy and doesn’t have the time to deal with every little complaint from papa-katsu girls. I’m sure even small frustrations sound annoying to him, but if you don’t communicate what needs to be said, the stress will break you down. So I “get adorably angry.” I think that’s the key.
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Usually, if I don’t like something, I say so while choosing my words carefully.
If it’s too difficult to say, I simply don’t continue seeing that person.
If I don’t say anything, it means I’ve chosen to accept it, so I see it through to the end.
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This applies to this relationship as well as to my usual position as a business owner—I feel that, depending on the person, I probably can’t always be completely honest.
That’s why I think it’s over if someone takes advantage of that.
Even so, when something genuinely bothers you, you should say so. Holding everything in too much isn’t sustainable.
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I’ve never really had anything I disliked so far…
Because this is the kind of relationship it is, I think there are also things you don’t worry about too deeply. I’m not very good at speaking up, but if something really bothers me, I’ll gently tell him how I’d like things to be.
And regardless of whether there are any offers or not, if I decide someone just isn’t for me, I won’t force myself to put up with it. I don’t think there’s any point in continuing a relationship if I have to endure things. I believe that goes both ways.
I’d like him to tell me if he has any complaints, but… since men are the ones with more choices, I wonder if that makes it difficult for them to say anything.
I think forcing a relationship only makes things painful for both people, so if possible, I’d like us to have a fun arrangement that feels good for both of us.
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> They say you don’t have to put up with it, but what if that’s the only offer you get?
For your peace of mind, I think it’s better to wait for an offer from someone else rather than force yourself to accept.
That said, if you’re in a situation where you can’t afford to wait, it seems like your only option may be to put up with it and go along with the arrangement.
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I think it all comes down to how you phrase it.
If you put it across negatively, it can damage the relationship, so I’d recommend politely turning them down or making your request considerately, for example:
“Would you mind doing ~, if that’s okay?”
“I’d really appreciate it if you could do this. It would help me out.”
Something along those lines should work well (* 'ᵕ' )☆
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To be honest, I’m not very good at saying those things either.
If money is your priority, I guess you just have to put up with it.
Otherwise, it’s a choice between that and putting up with being short on money.
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Oh, but once I told someone who used oil as lubricant, “Could you use gel instead? It makes me feel uncomfortable down there,” and he said, “Sure! You should tell me those things more often. I won’t make you do anything you dislike.”
I do speak up sometimes, too.
As for the tactile paving, the person I often walk long distances with is around my age, so it happens all the time… I get annoyed and say, “Seriously, I’m on the tactile paving again!” (lol)
But I’ve never said anything about things like a lack of cleanliness or body odor.
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