It may be best to look for someone new who can meet you two or three times a week.
If you can captivate someone so they want to see you often—no matter how many times—you may be able to maintain an arrangement with just one person.
That said, you’ll need to make every meeting enjoyable enough for them to keep wanting to see you.
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A three-legged chair is more stable than a two-legged one, right? Ideally, I think it’s better to have at least two papas. Of course, make sure you’re practicing safe sex, and then look for someone new…
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I understand how you feel, but if one day he suddenly stops responding, you could find yourself in a difficult situation with no warning.
With that in mind, if you want to maintain a long-term relationship with one person, I think it’s better to see two people in parallel. If possible, I’d even recommend keeping arrangements with around three people.
Telling your current partner is certainly an option, but you also have to consider that it could lead to the relationship ending.
I think it would be better to find another man. Since you’d still be seeing your current partner, you could ask for the allowance you genuinely want and look for someone willing to offer at least that much.
Even after finding someone, you could continue seeing your current partner as well. That way, if one of the relationships ends, you won’t suddenly find yourself in a difficult financial situation.
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I’m the type of person who believes you shouldn’t limit yourself to just one person when there’s always a risk that things could end unexpectedly.
If you found a man who offered you an allowance you were satisfied with, you’d plan to end things with your current partner too, wouldn’t you?
The reality is that both men and women enter these relationships without knowing when they might come to an end.
I’m not saying you should date several men at the same time.
I think it would be a good idea to look for one more person you can meet with regularly.
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Early on in an arrangement, I ask how much the woman would like to receive each month, then divide that by the pay-per-meeting allowance to discuss how many times we’ll meet.
So if she needs extra money for some reason, she’ll ask something like, “I need ○○ next month, so I’d like to meet ○ times this month.”
I like this approach because it’s clear and straightforward, but is it unusual to think this way?
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I think it would be better to look for someone else first, and then negotiate the terms. Wouldn’t that feel more reassuring? If you found just one other person, you might not even need to negotiate!
I understand preferring one person over multiple partners, but try telling yourself that two people doesn’t really count as “multiple dating” and keep at it!
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I really appreciate it when men ask about this themselves, like Kazu does! That way, even someone who isn’t comfortable with multiple dating might be able to talk things through and maintain a long-term arrangement with just one person.
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It depends on the other person’s dating budget, but I think it would be better to look for someone new rather than ask for more. If you find someone whose support is enough on its own, you could focus on that one person. However, narrowing it down to just one person carries a higher risk if things end, so I think it’s better to see multiple people.
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