As someone in my 50s, what do you think about canceling a trip I’d been looking forward to—not because of illness, work, or double-booking, but because my papa was in a bad mood?
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I had been working hard for that trip, even though work was really busy.
I wanted to respond coldly too, but I swallowed my feelings and replied politely because I want us to maintain a good relationship.
He suggested taking another trip this month, but I’m worried that it might get canceled again at the last minute because of his mood.
If I tell him how I feel about that, will it end our relationship?
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Regardless of whether he’s in his 50s or whether it’s an adult relationship (intimate), that’s simply unacceptable.
If you tell him the reason is that you’re worried he’ll get upset again and cancel, it may well lead to the relationship ending.
For now, why not tell him that you’d like to hold off on traveling altogether, perhaps citing COVID as the reason?
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I’m impressed that you’re handling things so maturely despite being treated that way.
The mature people around me would never behave like that, so I think there’s something seriously wrong with that man in his 50s. I get the feeling that this probably isn’t the only bad thing about him. I’d suggest telling him clearly how you feel—and if he doesn’t change, looking for someone else.
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Canceling because papa (a male supporter) is in a bad mood… What are grown adults even doing?
As Marika pointed out, it’s probably best not to get your hopes up and keep your expectations at around 50%.
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I think it’s best to get ready while assuming they might cancel again. That alone should help keep you from getting too frustrated.
If they’re the kind of person who can take a joke, tell them, “If you cancel next time, I’m charging you a cancellation fee too!”
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Canceled because he was in a bad mood? Do you mean he got upset over something involving you and canceled the trip?
Or did he cancel because he was in a bad mood about something unrelated to you?
But if you’re planning to go on another trip together, does that mean you’ve made up? Or that whatever was bothering him has passed?
I don’t really get it, but if you tell him you’re feeling anxious, will he get upset again?
By all means, keep this up forever.
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That’s a very mature way to handle it—wonderful!
If you know why your papa (a male supporter) is upset, avoiding that trigger would probably be best. But personally, I’d tell him, “I’m really looking forward to our trip this month, so I’m working hard,” while trying not to get my hopes up too much.
Then, if the trip really does happen, you may enjoy it even more.
Rather than saying, “I’m worried you’ll cancel again because you’re in a bad mood,” I think it would feel better for both of you if you emphasized how much you’re looking forward to it.
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