Isn’t offering 100 million yen for having his child far too little?
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Even if he acknowledged the child, he wouldn’t be able to participate in or help with raising them as an ordinary father, and he’d cause the mother a great deal of emotional and physical hardship. The compensation is nowhere near enough.
Even though giving birth is physically and mentally demanding for women, I wish men wouldn’t casually say they want us to have their children.
At the very least, I feel they should provide enough financial support so we wouldn’t have to worry about money. Am I wrong?? Unless they were offering a 300-million-yen apartment, 300 million yen upfront, and continued living expenses plus a credit card afterward, I don’t see the benefit of having a lover’s child.
People talk about DNA testing, but I think many of us would look at the other person’s intelligence, education, and other hereditary traits and think, “I don’t want this person’s genes.”
Being successful in business is completely different from having strong character, academic ability, or a good personality.
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> “Isn’t 100 million yen too little if I have your child?”
You might want to look up the child-support and spousal-support calculation tables used by the courts.
Under these tables, the amount increases when the man’s income is high and the woman’s income is low.
So, if the man has a high income, the amount he pays would presumably be higher. However, the table only lists incomes up to 20 million yen, so assuming the amount remains the same above that level, it states:
Ages 0–14: 180,000–200,000 yen per month
Ages 15–19: 260,000–280,000 yen per month
That comes to:
200,000 × 12 months × 15 years = 36 million yen
280,000 × 12 months × 5 years = 16.8 million yen
For a total of 52.8 million yen.
With that in mind, I don’t think 100 million yen could be considered too little.
Of course, just because the courts use these tables doesn’t mean you can’t ask for more. But based on the court’s standards, 100 million yen is roughly twice the calculated amount, so it seems like a pretty generous offer.
Besides, if it’s someone you dislike that much, I don’t think choosing to have their child would even be an option.
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Morally speaking, I agree with the questioner. However, if you resolve the matter legally, there is—unpleasant as it may sound—an established going rate. It varies depending on the man’s and woman’s annual incomes, but it almost never exceeds 20% of the man’s annual income at most. From the woman’s perspective, even 100 million yen might be considered cheap, though.
So the lesson is: make sure you practice proper contraception.
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If that’s how you feel, then you simply shouldn’t have children. You can take precautions to avoid getting pregnant. It’s possible if you’re careful.
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If it were me, I’d reflect on the fact that I hadn’t thought through what I would do if I became pregnant, or the disadvantages that could come with it.
Being a single mother is incredibly challenging. But when I think about the value of the life growing inside me, I don’t think I could easily decide to end the pregnancy.
Since you’re deciding the course of three lives—your own, your child’s, and the other person’s—whether to have the baby is a very delicate issue, isn’t it? (>_<)
Only the people involved know the full details about the money, so I’m sorry if any of the other answers hurt you.
I think the person who asked the question got angry because they were concerned about your child.
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If you don’t think there are any benefits, why not simply choose not to have children?
The amount of money you’d need to feel secure depends on the person. It’s nice to have a place to live, but even 100 million yen might not be enough. If you say, “I need 300 million!” then next it’ll become, “Actually, I need a billion!” In ordinary life, though, you don’t really spend that much money.
If you ever find yourself in that situation, negotiate skillfully!
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Like the allowance itself, this comes down to personal values. If it doesn’t feel right for you, you simply don’t have to do it.
Arguing over what amount is “reasonable” is pointless.
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