The papa I’m seeing lives in Nagoya, so we can only meet once every month or two.
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Our next date is next month, but I can’t wait that long, so I’m thinking of going to Nagoya to see him once before then.
If I told him I was coming, would that be a bother since he’d feel obligated to cover my transportation and meals?
I just want to see him because I’m being selfish, so I’m fine with not receiving any transportation allowance.
I’ve met someone in a situation like that before, and I was happy about it. However, as others have said, the nature of your relationship and the other person’s circumstances may also play a role. For the record, I did cover transportation and give them an allowance.
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If she says she doesn’t need transportation money
I’d probably appreciate her enthusiasm and make plans to meet her.
Whether she’d be a bother depends on how appealing you are. If meeting you turns out to be enjoyable or worthwhile, any feeling that it might be a hassle will probably disappear.
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If it were me, I’d probably just keep in regular contact, since he may be busy (๑>◡<๑)
I’d be even more reserved if he were married or held an important position or status (>_<)
Basically, I feel it can seem a little improper for a woman to be too forward—
(sorry, I’ve had this very traditional “Yamato nadeshiko” mindset ingrained in me…)
Rather than worrying about transportation costs and so on, why not think about whether it might be a burden to him?
If he emailed me saying,
“It would really help if you came♪ I want to see you!”
then I’d go (*^^*)
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From the papa’s perspective, he might be thinking, “Huh, you came? I’m busy right now and can’t spend time with you.”
So he’ll probably just give you transportation money and your allowance.
Why not find another papa as well?
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