There’s a saying that you can only be kind to others after being kind to yourself. What do you think being kind to yourself actually means? For those of you who give others lots and lots of allowance, and lovingly cherish your papa (a male supporter) and get intimate with him, how are you kind to yourselves?

The idea that you have to be kind to yourself before you can be kind to others is right in some ways, but not in others. Some people are kind to themselves but strict with others. Some are hard on themselves but kind to others. Some are strict with both themselves and others, while others are kind to both. I think it’s best to be a little strict with yourself and kind to others. One way to learn to like yourself and be kinder to yourself is to stop comparing yourself to others.

There’s a book called *Happiness Advantage*, so if you get the chance, give it a read. Books on mindfulness are great too♪ Basically, it says that when you’re happy, things tend to go well—“fortune comes to those who smile.”♪ I also really connected with what Mac said about kindness being “armor for weakness.” You’re fundamentally a very kind person, after all♪ I’ve also personally felt that things don’t go well when you’re constantly thinking, “Money, money, money!” Even with my side job, I often get flooded with orders when I stay relaxed and focus on gardening. Things tend not to work out when I’m thinking, “I’m really struggling this month—I could cry!” I think dabbling in mindfulness and psychology, as Ayase Nana recommends, can help you see yourself more objectively (*^^*) Maybe it becomes painful because you expect something in return from people? Being kind to someone means acting out of genuine consideration for them, without expecting anything in return. Whether that “something” is money or an action probably depends on the person and the situation. Please give yourself plenty of rewards (*^^*) Your health is your most important asset♪ If you’re thinking, “I have no money this month!” how about getting lots of sleep or soaking in a nice, long bath? You could even use some lavender aromatherapy oil from a 100-yen shop when you go to bed☆ Please take good care of yourself♪ Let’s do our best together♪

“Thank you” attracts happiness. On the other hand, envy, jealousy, and resentment attract unhappiness.

The key to understanding why you feel that way may lie in your childhood. Try learning a bit about psychology—YouTube is fine to start with.

I believe the foundation of self-esteem is a sense of having achieved things.