This is a continuation. That incident made me painfully realize that, from women’s perspective, I must really come across as a creepy old guy. That realization was probably a good thing, but at the same time, I no longer feel comfortable approaching women with type B blood or women under 25. I feel that this is a normal reaction on my part, but what do you think?

I’ve just finished reading Aristotle, so this time I’m going to get very philosophical. Please read with that in mind. As you probably know (though Joe didn’t), Aristotle rejected his teacher Plato’s concept of “Ideas” and placed greater importance on experience and practice. In doing so, he pointed out the importance of making the “golden mean” a habit. At this point, you’re probably wondering what on earth I’m talking about. Bear with me a little longer. By the “golden mean,” Aristotle meant the judgment that excess and extremes should be avoided. For example, if the opposite of being “cheap”—a trait often mocked in papa-katsu—is extravagance, then both should be excluded from this activity. In this case, the “golden mean” would be generosity: having enough leeway not to get hung up on trivial, immediate concerns. In other words, papa supporters and the women in papa-katsu can make things go smoothly if they both show some generosity. (Or so the theory goes.) Now, here’s my answer. I think the opposite of the “creepy old guy” mentioned by the questioner would be a “cool older guy.” Following Aristotle’s advice, let’s reject both extremes. Joe believes that the “golden mean” in this case is self-respect—the desire to maintain one’s dignity. The reason is that judging yourself to be a “cool older guy” can lead to arrogance, while judging yourself to be a “creepy old guy” is far too self-deprecating. Unfortunately, the questioner, who describes himself as “creepy,” is being far too hard on himself. And, as Joe would put it: “A reasonably experienced older guy shouldn’t be asking other people something like this.” Let’s both try to maintain our self-respect—the desire to preserve our dignity. We’ve got this.

As Mac says, being unemployed may indeed be somewhat unusual. Rather than focusing only on age, I recommend reading women’s profiles carefully before making an offer.

I read your previous question. If you have other dating partners, I think you should appreciate them and pay a little more attention to your appearance and so on. I haven’t met you, so I can’t really say, but there’s certainly nothing wrong with noticing these things and making improvements. I don’t think every woman under 25 with blood type B is like that, but if what happened felt traumatic enough for you to ask this question, I suppose that’s understandable. Still, you should also realize that not every woman under 25 with blood type B is the same. You simply happened to meet someone like that. Then again, maybe she really did just have a stomachache… Though I also wouldn’t like someone who left without even caring about cleaning up. If you don’t like women under 25 with blood type B, I think you should make offers to women who are older and have a different blood type.