My papa keeps inviting me on a trip once a month without fail.

Joe has a narrow mind, so whenever he sees a question asking how to do something “without hurting the other person,” he feels murderous. Why? Because while saying “without hurting the other person,” they’re unconsciously searching for words that are convenient for themselves and ensure they won’t get hurt. Joe is always talking back to the screen: “That doesn’t exist!” First and foremost, you have to be prepared to get hurt yourself—in other words, to accept that the relationship may end. After that, Joe thinks the only thing you can do is convey the question exactly as written to your papa. By “exactly as written,” I mean that you should come up with your own wording to communicate your intentions in a way that won’t make your papa uncomfortable and will help him understand. I believe that’s what being a woman active in the club is all about. Just because you can ask for free advice doesn’t mean you should ask absolutely anything and everything. I hope your relationship continues peacefully.

I also take an hour or two to fall asleep when I sleep with my papa, and I wake up several times during the night to use the bathroom or wash my face lol. I’m not good at sleeping with other people in the first place, so I can’t stay together with someone all night. I’ve always been a light sleeper, and when I really need to get some sleep, I sometimes take a sleep aid like Dormeal. In my case, I just tell my papa plainly, “I couldn’t sleep.” Even if you can’t sleep, traveling or spending the night together can still be a lot of fun, so that’s fine. But maybe you don’t actually like your papa that much. Or perhaps the allowance isn’t particularly generous either. I feel like the only thing you can do is have a serious conversation about how difficult it is for you not to sleep. Then you should look for a solution—a compromise between the plan you really want and your papa’s plan.