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Mar 2, 2022 12:11
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🏅 パパ活歴8年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
No question about it—having sex without consent is sexual violence.
If he tries to force himself on you, tell him you don’t want it, kick him in the balls, and get away.
Fuu always uses a condom during papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), because the risks of STIs and pregnancy from unprotected sex aren’t worth taking.
Break things off with a papa like that, report him to the club, and get him banned.
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Other
To think you’ve encountered so many awful men…
Pregnancy is certainly a concern, but as everyone has said, aren’t you worried about STIs as well? If anything, that seems like the bigger concern… Even if you’re taking the pill, it can’t protect you from those.
I hope you can avoid getting involved with men who won’t listen, and find arrangements you can continue without pushing yourself too hard.
Still, I’m shocked that there are really so many men who insist on going without protection… Don’t they have any sense of the risk of getting sick themselves or passing something on to their partner?
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Other
That’s not necessarily true.
But if someone like that does exist, I think they simply don’t understand how frightening STIs can be. A doctor once said that the chance of catching an STI at a sex-work establishment is 20% per visit.
Apparently, the infection rate among sex workers isn’t all that different from that among nonprofessionals. Sex workers are just more likely to discover infections because they get tested regularly. Chlamydia, which is said to cause no symptoms in 80% of women, is widespread among nonprofessionals too.
I hope you’re able to meet someone who’s willing to use condoms.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I never have unprotected sex without the other person’s consent, and I don’t think most members do anything like what’s described in the question. So I believe the questioner’s understanding is mistaken.
Also, I don’t think giving someone emergency contraception excuses what happened.
It should go without saying that you don’t do anything without the other person’s consent.
Could you perhaps have meant, not “The men I met here have sex without protection without even asking,” but “A man I met here had unprotected sex with me without even asking”?
Resisting in the moment would probably be best, but if you were too scared to do so, I recommend at least reporting it to the club. They probably wouldn’t ban him based on a single report without evidence, but if they received several similar reports, I think he would be expelled.