I feel miserable when men around my parents’ age—about 30 years older than me—treat me carelessly. Is this a generational thing?
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Am I simply someone who tends to be treated that way?
Please forgive me for venting here.
Men in their 50s or 60s would have had children around 10 years old when they were 40. Do they really understand how large the age gap is?
Even men in their 30s can be decent and pay 100,000 yen per meeting. Aren’t they embarrassed?
What do you all do to make sure you aren’t taken lightly and are treated politely and with care? Please share specific examples of how you interact with your supporters. Thank you.
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Maybe you just happened to encounter an odd man, but some men in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) mistakenly believe they can take their pick of women.
That’s why some of them get angry when you don’t do as they say. When that happens, I feel like they’re looking down on you…
To avoid being taken lightly or treated carelessly, you’ll need to become a more attractive and savvy woman. Learn how to guide your papa (a male supporter) skillfully.
The approach differs from person to person, so there’s practically no universal manual. Still, I think it’s important to meet his needs while also standing up for yourself.
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What exactly makes you feel that you’re being treated carelessly? If you could provide a little more detail, it would be easier to answer.
Also, everyone has a different idea of what it means to be treated carelessly, so I don’t think you should expect a perfect answer.
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I think being treated carelessly and receiving 100,000 yen on a pay-per-meeting basis are two separate issues.
Unless you explain specifically what this person did that made you feel you were being treated carelessly, it’s impossible to tell whether it had anything to do with his age group.
Generally speaking, I think it’s more a matter of the individual’s personality than their age.
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You’re more likely to be treated that way—or, rather, people may be more likely to see you as someone not worth taking seriously.
To remain an important papa (a male supporter) to the women I see, I treat them as important romantic partners too. That’s how relationships work, in my opinion.
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What does it mean to be treated carelessly…?
Are you saying that because there are respectable men in their 30s who pay 10, you feel that having a low allowance means you’re being treated poorly?
As for the allowance, I think any amount is fine as long as both people are happy with it, so if you feel it’s not a good fit, you can simply decline.
I’ve never been looked down on, and I’ve never met anyone like that. Even so, I always have feelings of respect and gratitude.
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