If we’ve finished one date and already made plans for the next one, is it okay not to message until shortly before we meet again?
Would messaging too often make me seem like a hostess?
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I made a point of staying in touch with the papas I felt I’d probably see less often because of their schedules, but who I wanted to become a favorite of. I think it generally worked out pretty well.
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I’m not sure when you’ll see each other next, but it might be a good idea to reach out once around the midpoint.
When you meet next time, it may be worth discussing how often you’d like to stay in touch. In my case, we’ve exchanged one message each way every day since we started seeing each other. That regular back-and-forth—always sending and always receiving—has continued for four years now.
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> Is it okay not to contact him until shortly before we meet?
If you’ve already decided when you’ll meet next, I don’t think it’s a problem.
That said, I get the feeling that more men tend to enjoy keeping in touch, so you could try sending something casual, like:
“I just bought a new outfit!”
Just a little feeler, so to speak.
If he’s slow to reply, I think it’s enough to start messaging him shortly before you meet.
If he replies quickly, he probably enjoys keeping in touch, so I think you should message him as long as it doesn’t become a burden for you.
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It depends on the man.
Just as you’re concerned about it, men care about it too.
The other day, during a date, I said, “I try not to contact her when we’re not meeting because I don’t want to burden her.”
She then said, “If we’re not going to contact each other much between meetings, then we can just keep in touch by text, so there’s no need to exchange LINE IDs, right?”
I felt disappointed and decided to say goodbye to her.
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It really depends on the person—or rather, the relationship.
Some women meet their papa every day, while others do so a few times a week or a few times a month. Even with the same person, the frequency can vary depending on the circumstances.
If you barely keep in touch, it starts to feel less like dating and more like prostitution.
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It depends on the person, so I think it’s best to match their pace of communication. If your next date is already set and they don’t contact you, I don’t think you necessarily need to reach out for now.
I’m currently seeing about three people, and the frequency varies: several messages a day, one or two a day, or a few per week. For the most part, I adjust to each person’s preferred pace.
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It’s difficult, isn’t it?
I made the mistake of not keeping in touch.
So I learned that you should communicate to some extent! It depends on the other person, of course, but I think it’s a good idea to reach out and see how they respond.
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