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Feb 28, 2022 21:40
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お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Bringing it up could damage the relationship, but if asking is enough to ruin it, then they’re only that kind of person anyway, so I think you should ask honestly.
You could even phrase it like this:
“I understood that the ¥150,000 per month was for exclusivity, meaning I wouldn’t date other men. Would it be okay to receive an additional ¥70,000 each time we have an adult relationship? We never actually agreed on the terms for that…”
Of course, if you’re okay with having sex around five times a week—about 20 times a month—for ¥150,000, then there’s no need to rock the boat.
But since you asked here, I assume you thought the ¥150,000 per month was for dinner only, and are now feeling that maybe it isn’t—or that you don’t want an adult relationship for ¥150,000.
So I think it may be best to make it clear that what you agreed to was dinner only, and bring up yourself that an adult relationship would be a separate matter.
Whether you’re genuinely comfortable with the arrangement is important. I don’t think you should feel bound by your own words just because you already said “okay.”
太郎
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Other
If you say it’s a monthly arrangement, that means the stated amount covers everything for the month, right?
When you park in a monthly parking lot, do you pay an extra fee every time you park? That would be ridiculous. I think this is just a matter of wording in Japanese.
Oh, and for the record, a monthly arrangement without an adult relationship might be possible. It depends on what you include in “everything.”
You could also say, “You’re the only one I have a monthly arrangement with—without an adult relationship,” and technically fulfill what they’re asking for.
Anyway, put your thinking cap on and do your best.
Taro
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
If you’re not comfortable with just any amount, make sure you negotiate for yourself.
Generally speaking, when someone says 150,000 yen a month, it’s reasonable to assume that amount includes an adult relationship (intimate).
He’s asking you to be exclusive with him, so whether that amount is satisfactory is up to you.
あや
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Other
I think that amount includes an adult relationship (intimate). It may be worth asking just to be sure, but most likely, that’s the total amount including everything.
If you have any questions, it’s best to ask each time. You’re the one who’ll regret it later if anything is unclear… Best of luck.
綾瀬なな
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Other
Since it’s a monthly arrangement, I assume that amount covers everything.
Please ask the gentleman who made you the offer for the details.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Why agree to a monthly arrangement without asking about that first? lol
Depending on the relationship, asking so directly could be awkward.
りん
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Other
Rather than asking here, ask your partner directly.
Since it’s important, why didn’t you clarify it at the beginning? For example, what kind of frequency is expected with a monthly allowance of 150,000 yen? If it were me, I’d want to know.