Sorry for posting again so soon. When it comes to dividing up the time on a date, is it more graceful to let the man take the lead?

I get so flustered that I wait nervously at a nearby café two hours before we’re supposed to meet. Because I stay so nervous, I end up completely exhausted, and in the second half I go from flustered to unusually quiet. As for how to spend the time, I feel more at ease when the adult relationship (intimate) part is longer than spending a long time shopping or visiting somewhere that seems upscale. However, I feel awkward saying something like, “Should we move on to the adult relationship (intimate) part soon?” from my side... I know this probably makes me sound like a bad person, but I’d really appreciate your answers. m(*_ _)m