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Feb 28, 2022 02:40
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I’m still doing papa-katsu now, but the papas generally approach me with the attitude that they’re basically wealthy people. It makes me realize, “So this is the level of wealth people consider rich.” Then I think about how comfortable my parents must have allowed me to live at home, and how devastated they would be if they found out I was doing papa-katsu. I feel terribly guilty toward them. Even after we reconciled, I felt I shouldn’t rely on my parents, so I support myself with a part-time job, papa-katsu, and a monthly total of about 700,000 yen from a scholarship that doesn’t need to be repaid. My parents still ask me whether I’m having financial difficulties. Of course, there’s no way I’d be struggling with 700,000 yen a month, so I tell them I’m fine—but I feel incredibly guilty because I’m doing papa-katsu, something I can’t tell them about.
It also feels uncomfortable when papas assume I’ve never experienced things like this before. I’ve traveled abroad alone many times since I was in middle and high school, too… So when they brag about it, I don’t know how to react.
I thought I should wear cheap clothes from GRL or somewhere similar in front of my papas, so that’s what I do. But when I meet my friends or go to university, I wear Louis Vuitton and Miu Miu that my parents bought for me. I genuinely love that kind of glamorous fashion. Overall, I feel like the version of myself I present in papa-katsu is fake. Am I simply not suited for papa-katsu unless I’m naturally innocent and able to be impressed by everything?
When it comes to business, I honestly feel like, “Wouldn’t it be much better to ask my parents, who each run their own companies?”
All I get from my papas is money.
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It’s even more ridiculous and laughable than someone who supposedly bragged incessantly about a car worth 7–8 million yen. LOL
Maybe they got into a weird mood from taking something and ended up posting this.
Take care of yourself. LOL
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お役に立てれば幸いです。
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You’ve written a lot, but basically, you can’t earn money on your own and are living off support from a papa, right?
First, I’d like you to earn around ¥100 million a year yourself, and then say that ¥10–20 million a year is no big deal.
When someone who doesn’t earn that much says it, it just doesn’t carry much weight.
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This is way too long. Please don’t start machine-gunning consecutive posts just because a single question was deleted. This isn’t a dumping ground for your emotions.
Even before papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), shouldn’t your wealthy parents have taught you the basic human skills of trying to communicate logically and organize your thoughts in writing?
Also, whether someone can be moved by everything has nothing to do with whether they’re rich or poor. Even among wealthy people, there are sensitive, emotionally rich girls whose eyes light up at every new experience.
So, while holding just a little resentment toward your parents for making you live with a heart as clouded as a dead fish’s eyes, please keep doing papa-katsu until you’re satisfied.
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If you feel papa-katsu isn’t for you, why not quit?
I’m not really sure whether you’re asking a question or just trying to say, “My family is incredibly wealthy!”
I don’t think growing up in a wealthy family means you’re incapable of being genuinely moved by anything. No matter what kind of environment someone grows up in, some people can be touched by things and feel grateful, while others can’t.
If you feel that all you’re getting out of papa-katsu is money, then maybe that’s fine. Papa-katsu isn’t meant to be a place to study business management, after all. Some people may use it that way, but everyone is looking for something different.
If you truly feel sorry toward your parents, you’d quit and get a regular job—or, if you don’t want to earn money through work, move back home. If you were genuinely struggling with this, I think you’d do one of those things.
Somehow, though, it seems like you’re actually satisfied with your current lifestyle.
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スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
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Any papa who brags should just be dismissed in your head as an idiot. When pretending to be poor, it’s best to really get into character like you’re an actor.
I support a university student who doesn’t get a single yen from her parents, let alone five million yen.
If my daughter were making a fortune through papa-katsu, I’d respect her and tell her she was doing a great job.
If she doesn’t have to repay student loans, she must be smart—and if she can earn money and is beautiful too, she’s practically perfect. She should keep moving forward just as she is.
To cut off an annoying papa, line up a few backup papas and make sure you also have a boyfriend who isn’t emotionally abusive.
A~Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月1程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
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I don’t think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is something only girls from poor or ordinary families get involved in.
That said, I do wish girls who look down on others would leave.
Every now and then, you see stories along the lines of, “I grew up in a wealthy family, but…”
Am I the only one who finds them totally unrealistic and suspects they’re made up?