Just as it’s impossible to tell everything from a woman’s profile, you can’t expect to know everything from a club interview either. Women want to pass, so they’ll put on their best behavior and act as agreeable as possible.
If you end up making an offer to someone like that, accept that you’ve stepped on a landmine, let it go, and move on to the next offer.
> Women who can’t see men in their 40s as men aren’t suited for papa-katsu.
There it is—another self-centered comment.
I understand feeling lonely when you’re in your 50s and women won’t give you a chance. I really do.
But it’s perfectly normal for women to feel uncomfortable with that.
So telling them condescendingly that they’re “not suited for it” isn’t very convincing.
For all you know, they feel that way simply because they’ve never met a kind older man. Or maybe they’ve encountered people like you, who act as if they’re always right and the other person is wrong, and that’s why they think, “No way.”
> Can’t the club figure this out before registering someone?
Women clearly state their preferences during the interview, such as “I can’t do anyone over 30.”
That’s probably why some women write things like “up to 40” in their profiles or comments.
But when a man responds by saying those women aren’t suited for it, I can’t help thinking, “This person really doesn’t understand anything.”
Maybe they simply haven’t discovered the appeal of older men yet.
If they go on a date and are treated kindly and made to feel special, they might start thinking, “Older men are actually nice.”
Then a woman who originally said she couldn’t do anyone over 40 might change to, “Maybe up to 50 would be okay,” and then, “Maybe even 60 would be okay.”
She might even end up thinking, “Older men are great.”
It all depends on how the man treats her on the date.
Still, if you’re in your 50s and that’s all the understanding you have, what does that say about you?
That’s honestly what I find myself thinking.
Show them more of what’s good about being an older man.
Club staff aren’t all veteran interviewers, either. Since so many women come in for interviews every day, some with very high expectations are bound to slip through.
It may be similar to looking for someone through a dating app.
There are some genuinely sweet and straightforward girls, but I think finding one who can genuinely date men of the older generation—albeit with a large allowance involved—is probably one in 30 or 40, if that.
