I’m probably not the soothing type. I think the papas I see probably just enjoy talking.
Some of them have been meeting me for dinner only for more than six months, and before intimacy we’ll talk for three or four hours. Sometimes we even spend four hours over a meal. We’re talking the whole time. Papas often tell me I’m quick-witted, probably because I’m quick at keeping the conversation going.
With my friends, the pace is even faster. I talk nonstop at high speed, jumping to a different topic mid-conversation and then circling back to the original one. When I’m talking with my best friend, we get so absorbed in our own little world that no one else can join the conversation.
That’s probably why many of my friends also have jobs where conversation is important. People sometimes even ask me if I work as a hostess at a cabaret club.
So rather than feeling relaxed with me, I think the men I’m seeing feel entertained and have fun. Among people my own age, I’m most compatible with someone who’ll play along with my jokes, or an older man who’ll patiently listen and nod along to my machine-gun talking.
I want to become the kind of girl who makes people feel relaxed and soothed when they’re with her.
But I’m basically terrible at staying silent.
What is a calming, soothing girl like?
Do you talk during meals?
Are you the type to silently stroke your papa’s head? I sometimes stroke my P’s head too, but never in silence. I’m saying things like, “You’re so cute, XX-san ^o^” the whole time.
How can I become more of a soothing type?
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If men are complimenting you on your conversation skills, I think you’re fine just as you are.
I’m not sure why you want to become more of a soothing type, but I think everyone has their own personality. If you’re already someone they enjoy talking with and want to spend time talking to, I don’t see what you’re dissatisfied with.
I’m not entirely sure how to define a “soothing type,” but it might be someone so adorable that simply being there is enough to make you happy. Or perhaps someone with graceful mannerisms who makes you feel content just by watching them.
Maybe you’re already a soothing type, too. You may just not realize it because you tend to talk a lot.
> But I’m basically incapable of staying silent.
If you can reach a point where the other person feels satisfied even when you’re both silent, that might be what it means to be a soothing type.
That said, being silent can also make people think you’re someone who can’t hold a conversation—or make a man wonder whether you dislike him.
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Saya Isyama, a Japanese glamour model, is apparently popular with men for her soothing, comforting vibe. I suppose she has a soft, curvy figure and a gentle image.
I’ve occasionally been told I have a soothing personality at the lounge too, but I speak more honestly when I’m doing papa-katsu, so I may actually be more like you.
Speaking a little less slowly and wearing pastel-colored clothes might help you come across as more soothing.
That said, your current personality is clearly working for you, so I don’t think you need to force yourself to become the soothing type.
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If you can talk and spend that much time together with your papas, you’re probably someone they feel comfortable around. I’m sure that’s one of your strengths.
I get nervous and have trouble talking when I meet someone for the first time, so I’m jealous.
When I hear “soothing type,” I picture someone gentle and laid-back. Whether that suits someone or not depends on the individual.
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A healing type is someone whose mere presence soothes you.
Being quiet doesn’t necessarily make someone a healing type—someone who makes conversation enjoyable can be one too.
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