What should I do when I receive travel expenses on the day of the first meeting?

> I think the club told me during the interview to ask, “Would it be okay if I checked?” when receiving it. Is that right? That’s correct. During the interview, we tell them to make sure to check it right there after receiving it. Apparently, some clubs even tell the women that the men have already been informed, so there’s nothing to worry about. But in reality, I’m not sure it’s completely fine, since men occasionally complain that they don’t like being asked to check it on the spot. That said, if you don’t check, the man may have simply forgotten to put the money in, leaving the envelope empty. So checking is necessary. Because of that, it seems best to check while giving an excuse such as, “The club specifically told me to make sure I check it.” > Is it usually handed over in an envelope or something? I tell men that using an envelope is preferable, but the way they hand it over is up to them, so I imagine some people give it directly without anything around it. > You call exactly five minutes beforehand, right? I once asked a staff member, “Wouldn’t ten minutes beforehand be okay?” They said, “Ten minutes is too early. Five minutes beforehand is best.” Some people probably arrive ten minutes early anyway, so I don’t think it causes that much trouble for most people. Still, I believe the club tells the women to contact the man five minutes beforehand.

I’ve had two people verify it right in front of me. They said they were “acting on instructions from the club.”

I hand over the allowance in a small gift envelope and say, “Please check the amount.” Some women put it away without checking, but I actually prefer them to confirm it in front of me—it gives me peace of mind too. They usually call about five minutes beforehand, I’d say. Next most common is calling right at the meeting time, while only a few call more than five minutes early.

A few women who had just joined the club checked the amount when they received their transportation allowance. I’d say it was only a few percent. Most people probably hand it over in a small envelope. Usually, women call about five minutes beforehand, though occasionally someone calls right at the meeting time or ten minutes early.