The allowance in my adult relationship (intimate) has started to feel like nothing more than payment.
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I don’t want to meet him without an allowance. Having sex with my papa (a male supporter) is exhausting.
He only gives me presents on my birthday, and he takes me to nice restaurants (though I wish he’d put that money toward my allowance).
He doesn’t take me shopping occasionally, either, and he doesn’t help me when I’m in a difficult situation.
Are your arrangements like this too?
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I see an allowance as compensation. Since you’re taking up a woman’s valuable time, it’s only natural that there should be something in return.
Perhaps your papa (male supporter) doesn’t feel the desire to help you despite seeing you. Maybe he hasn’t picked up on the fact that you need help, or perhaps he has noticed but, based on your usual behavior, doesn’t feel you need that much assistance. Either way, that’s the outcome, so there’s not much you can do about it.
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If there’s no allowance, wouldn’t it be better not to meet?
Are you seeing him without receiving an allowance?
He probably wouldn’t meet you unless he got something out of it too, so I think you should be grateful that he celebrates your birthday and takes you out to eat.
If you’re receiving an allowance, it’s probably best not to expect him to buy you things as well. I can’t really say much without knowing what kind of trouble you’re having.
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I think it’s perfectly normal not to want to meet unless there’s some benefit, such as an allowance.
What exactly do you mean by shopping—what are you intending to buy? I don’t go shopping for anything beyond small household items. If someone comes to me saying they’re having financial trouble, I may help them out.
That’s the kind of arrangement I have.
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