I was born out of wedlock and my father never acknowledged me. Even in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and in private relationships, so many men refuse to use condoms that I feel disgusted by men in general.
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I feel like my life is destined to be suffering because I’m the product of a stranger’s ejaculation—a thing with a penis attached to it.
How can I change the way I think so I won’t feel this aversion anymore?
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It’s perfectly normal to feel disgusted by people who don’t want to use condoms, and I don’t think you need to force yourself to get over that discomfort.
However, if you feel disgust toward all men, then I don’t think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is right for you.
You can live without doing papa-katsu. I think you’ll be happier pursuing a life that suits you.
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I don’t think it was necessary to mention that you’re unmarried and have a child whose father hasn’t acknowledged them. Why did you include it?
If you have such strong resentment toward men, you should probably quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). It’ll damage your mental health.
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I don’t think you need to force yourself to get over your discomfort. What do you think?
Also, I don’t think you necessarily need to confront your own background or past. The fact that you were born out of wedlock can’t be changed, but you’re probably still young, and I feel you may be too young to face that reality head-on. So why not set that fact aside for now? Of course, you can’t simply forget it, but for example, you could avoid connecting your background to men who refuse to use contraception, like in this case.
If you do that, a man who refuses to use contraception is simply someone whose brains have leaked out. Regardless of your own background, what matters is just saying “NO” to a brainless papa.
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Isn’t doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) reopening old wounds—or even traumatizing you all over again?
All I can say is that you should quit such painful papa-katsu and live in a more normal world.
Even if you dislike men, I don’t think you’d have that much trouble in everyday life. What do you think? You don’t have to force yourself to get a boyfriend, and these days, you can live just fine without getting married.
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