If you offer too much, there probably won’t be a next time. You may get lots of offers at first, but I think proposing an allowance you can continue paying will help the arrangement last longer.
Even when people talk about the going rate, some women receive 100,000 yen or more, while others only get about the same as they would through an app.
It isn’t simply about looks. Things like your charm, strategy, ability to negotiate, and performance in bed can all affect it.
Even the same woman may receive different allowances depending on the person she’s seeing, and some men also change the allowance depending on the woman.
With all that in mind, no one else can tell you what amount is appropriate.
If that’s how you feel, I think it’s better to say something like:
“I’m hoping for 80,000 yen, though…”
If the allowance is lower than what you’re hoping for, it will probably become stressful.
Alternatively, you could listen to what the man is offering, and if it doesn’t meet your desired amount, keep things open without saying so directly by telling him:
“I’d like to think it over, so I’ll head home for today.”
Then you can hear what various men are offering.
Even with Relationship Type C, you’re allowed to turn down 50% of your offers. So even if someone calls it a scam, you only declined because the allowance wasn’t what you wanted. If you would have continued with him had the allowance met your expectations, then it isn’t a scam.
That said, it may be worth considering whether receiving lots of offers but ending up dating no one is really the best outcome. It might be a good idea to take some time to think, and if you don’t find anyone else offering your desired allowance, you could choose to go ahead with the first person who approached you.
There’s no single “right” amount.
Tell them what you’re hoping for, and if they’re comfortable with it, I think it’s perfectly fine for things to develop into an arrangement.
That said, keep in mind that some men may leave you a negative review.
I once went on a date with a Platinum woman who had a one-star rating. She was a very nice person, but she asked for 8. Apparently, one man agreed to it.
Since there was no reason for her rating to drop other than the allowance, I felt this was one of the downsides of the revised review system.
By the way, although things didn’t work out between us, I still left her a review saying she was excellent.
Even outside Tokyo, a “blacklisted” woman with seven offers in a major metropolitan area could probably be considered popular.
I think you should set your minimum at 7+, or 9+ if the papa isn’t your type.
If you told me, “I’d like 9,” I’d add 2 and say, “Then how about 11?” before taking my seat.
