Do people who can’t keep a conversation going or go back and forth simply have no interest in other people? I’m not interested in people either and only want to interact with people I like. That’s why I’m usually not friendly at all, but when money is involved, my attitude is completely different. I’m used to talking with men through my part-time job, and I can keep a conversation going with most men. I basically never run out of things to talk about. Many of the men I date enjoy conversation and often want to see me even without an adult relationship (intimate).
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I think conversations work when you have the desire to get to know the other person, but people who can’t go back and forth usually never ask me anything at all.
For example, if we start talking about a dog I own and I ask, “What kind of dog do you have?” and they answer, “A ___,” someone with good communication skills who enjoys talking might follow up with, “What kind of dogs does ___-chan like?” or “Do you have one?” They might even show me a picture and keep the conversation going.
But people who can’t go back and forth stop there. They just answer, “A ___,” and don’t expand on the conversation at all.
There seem to be quite a lot of people like this. Why is that? I can keep the conversation going by taking the initiative, but it’s exhausting and makes it difficult to talk with them. Are they simply unable to feel any desire to get to know the other person?
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Whether you’re interested or not may have something to do with it, but I don’t think that’s really the point.
“Talent.”
That’s what I think it is.
In real life, I’m basically someone who gets by on communication skills alone. I can talk endlessly with an elementary school student, or discuss Heidegger’s philosophy with a university professor. I can even spend forever playing at an amusement park with someone else’s child.
It’s not about whether that’s impressive or not, or whether I’m interested in other people. It’s a talent for “naturally” trying to make people who share the same physical space as me enjoy themselves. In a way, I’m like a comedian.
The trade-off is that most people in the world end up hating me. The respondents here and the male members really dislike me, don’t they?
In exchange for the talent to “naturally” entertain the people around me in real life, I’m intensely disliked in non-real-life spaces. I don’t care in the slightest, though（笑）
You, too, are being intensely disliked by someone in exchange for that wonderful talent of yours, so please be careful♡
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I think being able to keep a conversation going is separate from actually being interested in the other person.
First, being able to keep a conversation going is a skill—your communication ability. Wanting to keep it going, on the other hand, probably comes from having an interest in the other person.
In your case, I think you’re using that skill to keep the conversation going because of the allowance. In that sense, the allowance is making up for your lack of interest in the other person.
The people you describe as “unable to keep the conversation going” may not necessarily be uninterested in the other person—they may simply lack the necessary communication skills.
Try reading your question again carefully. I think what you’re saying actually aligns with my answer; you just haven’t organized your thoughts yet.
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