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Feb 12, 2022 18:06
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茉莉花
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Rather than focusing on allowances and the like, we need to do something about women’s employment and wages.
As others have said, it’s probably best not to mention working in the nightlife industry. If things are tough because your income is low, I think it’s better not to bring it up yourself, but to answer honestly if you’re asked.
That’s much better than being told things like, “Don’t you earn more than I do?” or “You probably don’t need an allowance, do you?”
Marika
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I openly call myself one of the poor guys on the dating club, so I think it’s fine to talk about how much I earn.
If the papa is also struggling financially, he might feel a sense of familiarity, right? (Haha)
There’s also a chance he may offer a low allowance. In that case, you could either say specifically, “This is what a guy like me can afford,” or simply say, “I’ll leave it up to you.”
Keep things fun and playful, and make the relationship mutually beneficial.
綾瀬なな
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A take-home pay of ¥160,000 is totally normal.
It’s probably best not to mention that you work in the nightlife industry—many people don’t like hearing that.
If you keep saying you have no money, there’s a good chance you’ll be seen as someone who’s only interested in money.
If he asks why you joined a dating club, try saying it’s because you want to spend money on a hobby. Think of a hobby in advance, okay? ♡
You might even hit it off talking about it.
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Age: 50s
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I’ve never gone as far as asking how much the other person earns.
I’ll ask what kind of work they do—whether they’re in an office job, sales, or something along those lines.
From that, I usually get a rough idea of how much they probably make.
You should probably decide in advance what kind of approach you want to take when dating a papa, and how much personal information you’re comfortable sharing.
For example, you could share your income but not your workplace. If a papa keeps pressing you about your salary, I have a feeling he might continue asking intrusive questions about other things too.
Sharing personal information can make you feel closer, but it’s also a good idea to be prepared for the possibility that it could cause problems later on.
あや
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A monthly income of ¥160,000 is pretty common, so I think it’s fine to be honest about it. But there’s no need to go out of your way to mention that you work in the nightlife industry.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
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I think quite a few people earn around that much in regular daytime jobs.
I’ve heard that salaries at regional banks can be even lower. That woman mentioned that she was also sending money back to her family.
That said, personally, working in the nightlife industry would still be a negative point for me.
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Quite a few men don’t want to date women who work in the nightlife industry.
So if you haven’t mentioned it before, suddenly bringing it up could potentially bring the relationship to an end.
Taking that into consideration, if your take-home pay is ¥160,000, I don’t think there’s any problem with simply telling him that. If you lie unnecessarily, the truth may come out later.
And once it does, you’ll probably lose his trust.
I’m actually wondering whether anyone works in the nightlife industry only once a week, but if that’s really all it is, I don’t think you necessarily need to mention it. Still, I think you should first find out whether he’s open to dating women who work in that industry, and then decide.
> I’m genuinely poor, but I don’t want him to think I’m trying to get sympathy by saying I need help because I’m poor.
If you bring it up yourself, it could seem like you’re trying to make an appeal. But if he asks and you simply answer, I don’t think it would come across that way.
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Age: 60s
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Joe thinks it would be better not just to explain your current situation, but also to emphasize that you need money to achieve your goals.
The nightlife work is a tricky subject, since some papas may not like it.
Speaking from personal experience, I once heard how much she was making from that kind of work and added roughly that amount to her allowance—or at least, that was the idea? Quitting was one of the conditions, though I knew she hadn’t actually quit, haha. Though…maybe that’s not something to laugh about.
Age: Private
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Good evening.
I don’t think your income has anything to do with whether you’re a low-value woman or not. So I think it’s fine to tell him.
I like women who don’t resort to silly lies or evasions, and I’d want to treat someone like that well.