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Feb 9, 2022 06:00
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🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
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Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
Are you worried about it? Then it’s easy—just buy her some chocolate.
Other
Given the way things are, I don’t think you need to give her anything.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I think you should give an allowance when you want to or feel like giving one; if you don’t particularly feel that way, it’s fine not to.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
> If he’s someone who doesn’t give you a birthday present, he probably doesn’t care about Valentine’s Day either, right?
He probably doesn’t care, but I think it would still be nice to give him something on the level of a courtesy chocolate.
Maybe the whole concept of courtesy chocolates doesn’t really exist anymore, but men in the papa (male supporter) generation probably grew up in a world where they did.
I think something small, preferably around 1,000 yen, would be good.
If you give it to him and have him open and eat it right there, even a papa who’s afraid of being found out and can’t take it home should be fine.
You can say with a smile, “I’m expecting double in return,” and then laugh it off with an “Oh, come on!” so it won’t feel too heavy.
Of course, if he’s the kind of person who regularly gives you presents, I think you should go with a genuine Valentine’s chocolate. But judging from your question, something more like a courtesy chocolate might be best.
Also, a lot of men in that generation don’t like sweets, so even if it’s just a courtesy gift, you should probably find out whether chocolate is okay in the first place.
If he doesn’t like chocolate…
I’m not really sure what would be good. Maybe kaki-no-tane rice crackers?
Also, I suppose there are things like whiskey bonbons filled with sake…
Other
You absolutely don’t have to give him anything.
Can’t you decide for yourself?
It’s a matter of personal feelings, so do whatever you’re comfortable with.
Didn’t he at least give you 1,000 yen for your birthday?
And all you gave the man was a LINE message…?
Other
Of course, you don’t have to give anything. I think you should only give something if you genuinely want to.
Personally, if you’re thinking about continuing the relationship or simply want to show your appreciation for their usual support, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with giving them some chocolate to express that.
I just feel that being involved with someone you don’t even want to give that much to would be tough. And naturally, you shouldn’t expect anything in return—you’re giving it because you want to.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m someone who doesn’t exchange birthday presents, so I don’t really care about Valentine’s events either.
For birthday gifts, I might just send a Starbucks gift card via LINE, but I haven’t told him my birthday, so I don’t get anything in return.
Still, if you’re grateful for his support, I don’t think it would hurt to give him a small obligatory chocolate along with the chocolates you’re giving your boyfriend and friends…