I’m worried about being accused of “dating-type fraud,” so I wanted to ask a question.

> If, after the second or third meeting, I decide I don’t want to see him again, or things become awkward because I turned him down when he invited me to a hotel, is it okay to end the arrangement because we’re not a good match? Or would that be considered bad manners? I think that’s perfectly fine. Basically, the only bad manners would be meeting him about ten times, deciding to pursue an adult relationship (intimate), going to a hotel, taking a bath, washing each other, and then, just when things are about to happen… The man heads to the bed, expecting the woman to follow—but instead, she puts her underwear back on and starts getting ready to leave. Now *that* would be bad manners（笑）

> Would choosing Dating Type B in this situation be considered misrepresenting my dating type? Normally, this would be a situation where Dating Type A would be more appropriate. With Type B, there’s a possibility the man may complain that you misrepresented your dating type. However, in your case, since you have no experience with men and have properly discussed this with the staff, it seems your profile comment says something like, “Three or four meetings won’t be enough for me, so please only contact me if you’re okay with that.” Because of that, I think the men will make offers understanding that, since you’re inexperienced, it can’t be helped. Men who aren’t willing to wait that long probably won’t make an offer in the first place. So, since you’ve been upfront with the staff, I don’t think anyone would consider this misrepresenting your dating type. In this case, I think you can feel reassured. > If things become awkward or we don’t click, would it be okay to decline the relationship altogether? Or would that be considered bad manners? There’s absolutely no problem with that. One of the advantages of a dating club is that you’re allowed to decline the relationship if you feel you’re not compatible. You’re allowed to decline even with Dating Type C or D, so it’s perfectly fine to say no if you feel it’s not going to work. > If there’s anything else that concerns you besides what I asked, I’d appreciate any comments or advice. Based on your question, I got the impression that you’re looking for someone with whom you can eventually have an adult relationship (intimate), so my answer is that you should be fine. However, if you end up thinking, “In that case, I’d rather just keep having dinner with everyone,” the men will probably pick up on that as well. If that happens, there is a possibility they may accuse you of misrepresenting your dating type. Please don’t forget that people are willing to be patient because you’re approaching this sincerely and making them feel that there’s no rush.

You’re a B type leaning toward A. I don’t think that’s a problem at all. It’s actually the type of arrangement I prefer. It should be fine if you write something like: “I’d like to meet for dinner dates about three to five times before moving on to anything beyond that.” That said, if you’re a virgin, you might be better off presenting yourself as an A type leaning toward B. Men who make offers to virgins may be in a hurry because they want to be the one to take their virginity. So it might be safer to stick with A leaning toward B.

If you’re open to an adult relationship (intimate), then it isn’t a dating-type scam. However, men who have been active for a while know from experience that if things don’t progress by the third meeting, it will probably be difficult going forward as well. So if you keep turning him down at the third or fourth meeting, you should expect that he may stop inviting you. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with declining the arrangement altogether if things have become awkward. Good luck with your papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)!