I want a papa (a male supporter) who’ll meet me 2–3 times a month too (TT)

As someone who limits things to once a month with the same woman, all I can say is that it’s simply the pace that keeps me from getting bored. When we’ve just started seeing each other, I might meet her two or three times a month because I’m really into her body and the way she responds. But, oddly enough, those two or three meetings have always ended up leading to us parting ways. I wouldn’t mind having an adult relationship once a month and dinner dates twice a month, but when the allowance is only 10,000 yen, the woman usually starts feeling a bit dissatisfied too, haha. That’s how it is for me, anyway. I don’t know what your once-a-month papa (a male supporter) is like, but I hope this helps.

A man who sees you once a month probably feels that frequency is just right for him. The reason may vary from person to person, but I imagine that’s simply the level that suits his sex drive. So it would be difficult to get the man you’re currently seeing to increase the frequency. While continuing to value your current relationship, I think you should look for a man with a stronger sex drive. A man with an average sex drive probably wants to be intimate about once a week. Someone who wants it more than twice a week likely has a strong sex drive, while someone who wants it less than once a week may have a diminished libido. You may be wondering, “Why once a week?” There used to be a theory that men tended to buy weekly magazines, while women tended to buy monthly magazines—and that this might correspond to the difference in men’s and women’s sexual cycles. It was probably just an arbitrary comparison with no real basis, though. Still, I somehow feel that there are quite a few men who want to have an intimate date once a week. So I think you should look for a man with a strong enough sex drive to want to see you every week. Of course, you also have to consider his arrangements with other women, so unless he has an exceptionally high sex drive and wants intimacy every day, meeting once a week may be difficult. Rather than trying to change someone’s behavior, it seems easier to find someone who is already willing to do what you want.

When it’s time to say goodbye, how about throwing your arms around him for a hug and saying, “Thank you so much!” with a smile? Even at my age, I used to let him pull me in for a hug at first, but when I started initiating the hugs myself, he was absolutely delighted. Akari

Do you think you and the man are compatible? If he seems to be enjoying himself, ask him to make plans early so you can gradually increase how often you meet. And if you’re able to increase the frequency, go ahead and do so. As for the papa you’re currently seeing, ask the staff to hide his profile.

Before you part ways, while he’s still feeling good about the time you spent together, I think it’s best to ask something like, “When can I see you again?” and lock in your next date.