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Feb 4, 2022 17:18
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綾瀬なな
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Other
I think it’s best to say it’s been a few months.
The person asking wants to know whether you’re just looking for a one-off encounter.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I answer honestly, even when it may put me at a disadvantage.
There have been times when things didn’t continue because I was honest, but I don’t want people to lie to me in the first place, so I make a point of not lying either.
フラグメーカー
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🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I don’t have a good impression of questions like that.
Woman: “Are you seeing anyone right now?”
Me: “No. That’s why I reached out.”
Woman: “Were you in a long-term relationship?”
Me: “Yes, I was. So I’m looking for someone I can date long-term.”
Woman: “I’m looking for the same thing! The timing is perfect for both of us♡”
Me: “Exactly. Yay!!”
And then… and then… and then… and then…
And then… and then… and then…!
Read and ignored.
To begin with, even though it was way too early to know whether we’d actually get along, I was basically made to say, “I want a long-term relationship.” And this is what I get.
What is this?
あや
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Other
I think they probably want to know how you view dating clubs—or, more specifically, being in a mistress-type relationship.
- Are you just looking to sleep with lots of girls?
- Or are you looking for one girl you can have a long-term relationship with?
They may be trying to figure out where you stand on that.
As Maezawa-san mentioned in his answer, they might also want to know whether you already have a partner.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’ve never been asked anything like that…
Paper Airplane
Maybe you need to make an effort to convey a sense of security and trust so they don’t feel the need to ask questions like that…
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
There are a few possible interpretations:
1. She’s looking for a long-term arrangement, but from talking with you, it seems like you want to see several different women. She may be wondering whether your goals are compatible.
2. Your words and behavior are so different from what she considers normal that she feels a long-term relationship with you might be difficult. However, she may be asking whether you’ve ever had a woman stay with you for a long time to see if you might actually have a kind side. In other words, she may be concerned about your behavior.
3. She may be checking whether she has any chance if you already have someone else you’ve been seeing long-term—because she wants a long-term relationship with you.
I suppose it could be one of these.
How you should answer probably depends on whether you want a long-term relationship with her.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Only the person asking knows their true intentions, but I suspect they’re asking because they want to know whether you’re looking for a one-time arrangement.
I answer honestly, including the intention behind the offer, without trying to dodge the question or make up excuses.