I don’t think it’s enjoyable to be around someone who’s struggling or worried, so I never say things like I’m having financial difficulties and only talk about fun things.

Looks and a pleasant personality are necessary to get your foot in the door, but beyond that, it’s about personal qualities and effort—not polishing your appearance even further. Just look at celebrities. They go out drinking with established stars, show them their true selves and how hard they’re working, get them interested, and turn that into opportunities. I think there are two options: either you open up, wear yourself down, and gradually close the distance, or you put in flawless effort until they think, “Wow, this person is incredible.” Kind of like choosing between Nao Asahi and Becky. Do you get what I mean? Opening up and showing your true self is the easier approach.

Even if you’re not struggling financially, there are people like me who have ended up with lots of generous (well-paying) papas, so I think it really depends on the person. At the time, I apparently gave off a somewhat unfortunate, worn-down vibe. Both my work and my life were a mess, and I was desperately trying to get by. I could support myself, but I was cutting back a lot to save money. I was still taking medication, too, and working so hard every day that I was damaging my health. So I think, from my papas’ perspective, I came across as “someone who’s doing her best to live, but sometimes tries too hard and ends up making mistakes.” One papa told me that I “couldn’t make eye contact on our first date.” Apparently, I was so nervous that I was acting suspiciously, lol. I wasn’t particularly charming or anything, but if I managed to pique their interest, it made me feel that all the hardships I’d been through in life had been worth something. Maybe because I’d struggled so much, I was genuinely happy with any amount of allowance and grateful from the bottom of my heart every time. That hasn’t changed even now. I think the person asking this question could also receive support if there’s something about you that resonates with that papa. I’m not saying you need to become someone who’s been through hardships like me—just highlight the qualities and personality that make you, you.

I feel like men aren’t running a charity either—they probably just want to enjoy great intimacy. I don’t think you should tell them that you’re struggling financially. And there’s no need to mention that you’re dealing with mental health issues either. Lately, I’ve been thinking that what they’re really looking for is enjoyable intimacy with someone they feel comfortable with.

People who genuinely want to help those in need would probably donate to a volunteer organization. Most men aren’t looking to give an allowance to someone who’s struggling; they want an allowance-based relationship with a woman they enjoy spending time with. Also, many businesspeople are superstitious, so I think a lot of them dislike associating with negative people.

I consider myself a generous papa. This is just how I personally see it, but I give substantial allowances to women who are genuinely working hard to make something of their lives. I don’t just provide an allowance—I also help them make their dreams a reality. I’m good at turning zero into one, so when I feel I can truly help a woman, I want to support her wholeheartedly. On the other hand, if her reason is simply “I want to save money,” I don’t really feel motivated to support her. An allowance is only temporary. Other than developing the ability to earn for yourself, there’s no real way to carve out your own path in life. I want to be a generous papa to women who are seriously willing to take on that difficult challenge. We only get one life, after all. But by helping a woman pursue her dreams, I get to experience a different life myself. Looks and physical compatibility matter to some extent, but more than anything, my deciding factor in becoming a generous papa is: “Is she a woman who has a dream and is working hard to achieve it?”

Women who only make small talk on the surface aren’t very interesting. Just be yourself. If he gives you money even when you’re not struggling financially, and your bedroom skills are incredibly good, conversation might not matter anyway.