Is it strange to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) to fund my own business?
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I joined Universe because I want to start a business in the future. I’ve met with several papas, and they often ask me, “Why did you join the club?”
Every time, I explain that I want to run a company like this and build the connections and funds I’ll need for it, but they always give me a disappointed look.
I’m now wondering if I came across as lacking charm.
But is this actually a strange thing to do?
Also, how do those of you answering this usually respond when asked the question above?
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Hmm… if there’s no chemistry, it might be better to shelve that topic for now.
I’d love to hear what the business owner thinks, too.
But from what you’ve shared, there does seem to be something you have in common, right?
Isn’t that mentioned in your profile?
If so, delete it and write something else that’s more charming.
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I don’t think you need connections or funding to start a business.
People who go to networking events are often just wandering around without a clear direction.
And what do you expect to gain without offering anything in return? Most papas would probably be baffled, thinking, “Why should I be the one paying?”
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I’m Taro, a male member.
I see women mentioning “starting a business” in their profiles from time to time. Maybe they say the same thing during interviews, too.
Personally, it puts me off a little. I assume they’re planning to meet a lot of men, so I’m worried about STIs.
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This is going to be long—sorry.
Papas join papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with more of a “sexy purpose” than you might think.
They’re expecting to enjoy intimate time with a young woman without having to think too much, so if you bring up ambitious topics like “starting a business” or “entrepreneurship” right away, they may feel a little disappointed, thinking, “I just wanted to enjoy some sexy time—why is she being so serious?”
They may also have been surprised because very few women talk that way.
People generally discuss their future ambitions after getting to know each other, so bringing it up at a first meeting may have seemed strangely “inauthentic” to him.
When I was asked, “Why did you sign up?” I would say something like, “I hit a wall at work and wanted to interact with people from a completely different world. The industry I work in is very insular, with a narrow circle of people, and so on.” I adjusted my answer somewhat depending on the person, but the general idea was that “I’m often dismissed as a woman at work, so I wanted to feel appreciated as a woman.”
That kind of answer often led to questions like, “What kind of work do you do?” Some people didn’t ask anything further, so I adjusted my response based on their reaction.
In any case, my reason was always consistent: “I want to feel appreciated as a woman, and I want to interact with mature men.” I think that made many papas sense something sexy about me. They probably thought, “This girl wants to show a side of herself that she can’t reveal in her usual serious job.”
It sounds silly saying it myself, but that was how I felt at the time.
I’m sure things will work out for you too, as long as you choose the right moment to bring it up. Good luck.
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Some people may be genuinely interested in hearing about that kind of thing—though whether they’ll actually provide funding is another matter.
If your plans or vision are too vague and careless, a papa who’s a business owner might think, “You’re just a naive kid.” Or they may wonder, “Are you really expecting one generous (well-paying) papa to give you seven or eight figures?” They might also think, “I worked steadily to save that kind of money.” All sorts of thoughts may be swirling around in their head.
So it might be better to bring up those plans while considering who you’re talking to and when.
Marika
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I don’t think it’s strange at all.
Starting a business sounds really admirable.
For me, it’s about gaining life experience. I’ve only ever lived in a specialized world, so I’m pretty sheltered and probably out of step with other people in some ways.
Isn’t it amazing to have the chance to meet and talk with people you’d probably never encounter in your everyday life?!
That’s why I thought I could learn a lot by meeting people who’ve had a wide range of experiences and hearing what they have to say.
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I’ve never asked things like, “Why did you join the club?” or “Why are you doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?”
Because there’s nothing good that comes from hearing the answer.
Actually, knowing my personality, if I asked, I’d probably end up having to pay an extra allowance, which scares me off.
In this situation, the conversation would naturally lead to, “How much funding do you need?” But I can’t afford to pay that kind of money, so I’m too scared to ask.
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There’s nothing strange about that at all! I think it’s perfectly valid.
I joined the club because I was looking for some excitement and wanted to become intimate with women I found interesting. So that’s probably how I’d answer, too.
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