When I have dinner with my papa, he always takes me to places where the customers are mostly college students or people in their 20s and 30s, and it’s really killing the mood. We’re the only age-gap couple there every time. As a woman, I feel so out of place and awkward.
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They’re places I could easily go to on my own, and I’m constantly nervous that I’ll run into someone I know.
Do men really not notice this?
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“Apparently, someone from my seminar saw me at that restaurant the other day and contacted me afterward. It really scared me... From now on, I’d like to go to places where there aren’t many young people.”
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They probably take you there because they haven’t realized you’re aware of it.
Since this is somewhere you often go with friends, why not ask him to take you to a restaurant he usually goes to?
If he won’t, then either he doesn’t want to take you to a place where he’s a regular, or he simply doesn’t know any good restaurants.
You could also take the initiative, choose the restaurant yourself, and make the reservation. Some papas get upset when a PJ makes the reservation, but in this case, it seems better for you to handle it yourself.
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Maybe he hasn’t noticed, or perhaps he likes those kinds of places—or thinks you’re happy with them.
Why not tell him, “I’d love to try a place like this!”? You could also say, “I can’t really go to places like that on my own…”
That’s one of the perks of a dating club, isn’t it?
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He may very well be unaware.
People have different tastes, so he might simply be trying to choose places that suit your age.
I once dated a 19-year-old platinum girl and took her to fairly nice restaurants, but she told me she actually preferred something more casual and junk-food-like.
Still, if you feel uncomfortable, I think it’s fine to tell him that.
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Perhaps they either don’t consider how it looks to others, want to seem younger, or simply have that kind of taste.
Why not try asking them to go to the kind of place you’d like to visit?
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Meals are important—and something to look forward to…
You could ask him to suggest a few options, or have the woman choose a restaurant she wants to try each time. That way, you get to go somewhere you’re excited about every time.
Another option is to ask him to take you to restaurants you’ve been to with a previous papa and would like to visit again, mentioning pretty much the same places each time.
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