I’m in Type C dating, but is there a good way to turn someone down when I just can’t stand them or our terms don’t match? I’m worried my rating will suffer if I refuse. Honestly, I’d like to turn down anyone offering less than 50,000 yen in allowance. I’m an older woman, so I’ve never received 100,000 yen or anything like that—8万 is the most I’ve gotten. Seeing everyone here talk about receiving much higher allowances is honestly pretty discouraging. From next time on, I think I’ll try negotiating a little higher with people I wouldn’t mind being turned down by.

I’m Dai, a male member. If you tell them the allowance you want based on the man, they’ll turn you down themselves. With Type C, you don’t get a bad review because your allowance is high—it’s when you can’t decide during the first meeting. If you say, “I haven’t decided yet whether I can have an adult relationship (intimate). Could we meet again for dinner?” you’re more likely to receive a negative review.

Since you call yourself an “older woman,” Jo is going to be a little gangster-like here. Look, this may just be the official stance, but this is a matching site, so the club doesn’t get involved in individual negotiations. If you have certain requests, all you need to do is communicate them clearly and make sure the other person agrees. If negotiations break down and they leave you a bad review, explain the situation properly to the club. You may have to stand your ground sometimes, but I think that’s one of the risks of registering here. Am I wrong? Saying it’s because you’re an older woman is the worst excuse. It’s rude even to captivating older women. Whether someone is Type C or Type D, there’s always a possibility that negotiations will fall through, and Jo thinks it’s perfectly valid for someone to say, “I’m just not comfortable with them.” I know I’m being hypocritical here, but pull yourself together!

I think it’s best to adjust the allowance depending on the man, anywhere from ¥5,000 to ¥30,000. More precisely, you can leave it up to him or set it somewhere between ¥20,000 and ¥30,000. If you feel he’s the type who’ll leave it to you, you don’t even have to bring up the allowance. Also, don’t judge based on looks alone—consider what he says, how he talks, his overall vibe, and how composed he seems. —Paper Airplane

I’m Kazu, a male member. I can’t think of a good way to turn someone down when you simply can’t stand them on a gut level, but if their preferred terms don’t work for you, I think it’s fine to just say so. There will always be some people, regardless of gender, who leave negative feedback out of spite when things don’t go their way, so it’s best to accept that. If anything, I’m surprised you haven’t added more to your requirements before, whenever you thought, “I don’t mind being turned down.”

I’m Flagmaker, a columnist. See? I told you so, lol. People like this start showing up. Then more negotiations fall apart, which means more unhappy members on both sides. Men and women alike leave because they can’t find anyone good and move on elsewhere. Then Universe loses members and becomes less appealing. Everyone loses. Actually, I’m the one in trouble here, trying to compete with “an intimate video for five,” lol. I’ll make you look cute! Don’t worry! lol Now, seriously: I do think there’s a place for papa-katsu girls to “earn through patience and hard work.” Otherwise, this market will become one limited to extremely beautiful women and extremely wealthy men, and the market as a whole will shrink. Let’s say I’m a papa-katsu girl who’s struggling financially. I’d obviously be unattractive, right? (lol) Even so, if I get an offer, have an adult relationship for 30,000–50,000 yen, and continue seeing him, that’s incredibly valuable to me. There needs to be room in papa-katsu for women to earn through patience and hard work, making small profits through volume. Otherwise, some girls will end up with no options. If I were a woman doing papa-katsu, I’d be finished.