I’m a former member who registered quite a while ago. I quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) after getting a boyfriend. I often check the Q&A box because some of the words here really resonate with me.

I keep alternating between restricting my food intake and binge eating. I’m wondering whether I should tell my boyfriend about my eating disorder. Right now, I binge and purge, but lately I’ve been spending so much time with him that there are days when I can’t. Sometimes, when plans get canceled because of something on his end and I have some free time, I find myself feeling happy because I’ll be able to binge and purge. Even if you ask whether telling him about the bingeing and purging would make me feel better, I don’t think it would. But we’re dating with marriage in mind, and I’ll end up being financially supported by him, so I feel guilty keeping it from him. I’ve considered going back to papa-katsu, but that would be difficult, and ideally, I’d like to recover. Still, if I don’t tell him, I might just hide it and binge and purge whenever I get the chance. I don’t know what the right thing to do anymore. Even when I went to the hospital, they only asked about my relationship with my mother, and I never felt like I was getting better, so I stopped going. He’s more than ten years older than me and thinks things through calmly, but I’m afraid I’ll give him a bad impression. What would men think if a woman told them she had an eating disorder?