It means always showing lots of facial expressions and reactions—spontaneously—that he doesn’t see from other girls.
Joy, anger, sadness, and happiness—
I can express all four.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
In my case, I joined a dating club and have only had one adult relationship so far. Reading your question, though, it occurred to me that the key is becoming a partner a papa can feel comfortable seeing.
For example, because there’s an age gap of more than 40 years, she initially viewed relationships mainly in terms of money. But we took our time discussing things like:
- The importance of preventing others from finding out our identities and taking precautions against sexually transmitted infections
- Keeping our promises to each other and maintaining a relationship without excessive burdens, whether worries or financial strain
- Making sure our papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) worked comfortably for both of us, including our schedules and how often we contacted each other
After about a year together—in my case, we met twice a month, so we’d seen each other around 24 times—the relationship became well established, and I feel we’re able to see each other with peace of mind.
I’m an old man, and she’s now working and earning her own income, so I’ve told her, “If you ever want to end things, just tell me anytime.” But so far, there’s been no sign that she wants to end it—or that she’s getting a boyfriend. Maybe money is better than no money, after all? We’ve now met around 70 times, and it looks like we’ll definitely reach 100（笑）.
“Papa-katsu” sounds like a lighthearted term, but the reality is quite demanding, with intense competition from unseen rivals.
Try your best to become someone your papa can feel comfortable seeing.
I’m Aya, a female member.
When you’re together, show him very clearly that you like him—but keep a sense that he can never truly have you. I think that’s the kind of woman you should be.
Besides, once you’ve met through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), there’s a 99.9% chance you’ll never marry the man, and the age gap is usually significant anyway. So you’re already someone he can’t truly have. I think you should feel confident and stay exactly as you are.
I’m Saito, a column writer♪
Just as Mac says.
If I had to add anything, it’s that when a man senses a woman’s “I like you” signals too strongly, he may sometimes start taking her lightly.
Rather than focusing on making him feel liked, I think it’s better to show him how much you value him.
When you’re treated well, you’re also more likely to be introduced to wonderful men by other supporters—or even by the club staff.
